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| Mon, 08-01-2005 - 10:50am |
Hello. I'm Hilary and I'm 17 years old.
Okay so here's my story:
There's this guy who I've worked with for the last 8 months (that's when I started there). We both work at a grocery store together. So to begin with, I thought he just seemed like a really nice guy and that was about all. Eventually I asked for his e-mail and started talking to him on msn. I made a bold move and asked him out for coffee. I didn't want it to seem to date-ish so that's what I suggested. Instead, he took me out to a movie and dinner and paid for everything. He also drove and afterwards we hung out my house for an hour or so. So we both said we had a great time and would like to do it again. He was in a play at his school so I went to see it and he was ecstatic to see me. I really wanted to see him again but he always seemed to be busy and whatnot. Eventually, a few weeks ago. We went out again. He paid for everything once again.. dinner and a movie. Afterwards, we went to a park and just walked around and talked for a while. At the end of the night when I asked if he wanted to see me again he said 'Of course I do! Definitely.' The problem is that he's leaving for school in less than a month and he'll be 6 hours away. I know he likes me but I'm pretty sure he just doesn't want to get attached. I don't know what to do because I've never felt this way about a guy before. He said he really likes me but would rather be friends but I can't help but think he wants more. I don't know if this is just wishful thinking or what. Should I just totally give up on this and be his 'friend' instead? I have no idea what I should do.
Thanks and any help would be appreciated :)

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He has already very clearly told you that he would rather be friends. The words prior to the word "BUT" in the above statement are negated by the words that come after "BUT". That's the part you should pay close attention to. And since you can't force him to be with you when his heart isn't in it, all you can do is either respond with a "yes" or "no" to his offer of friendship.
My two pesos....just be his friend, get to know him and watch how he treats other girls. This will give you a good idea of how you can expect him to treat you if it grows beyond a friendship. One thing is for sure, you can't expect him to treat you any better than the other girls. If he ends up being a dog with them, then you'll know he isn't great BF material.
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