what to do now?

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Registered: 08-02-2005
what to do now?
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Tue, 08-02-2005 - 5:06pm

Ok in the nut shell, He 55 me 45, have dated a few times, like each other have so much in common and not in a hurry, well he calls last night to say an old girlfriend looked him up and wants to rekindle their old relationship which was rocky at best a few years ago.

So, me being me said well I guess you need to find this out, but he is not sure if it will, and that he thinks he wants to give it a shot. He still wants to CALL me and talk and let me know whats going on with this and well, I didn't really like it but, what could I say that would change his mind,I did try this once myself and lost out on alot as it did not work a leopard doesn't change his/her spots.

Well any advice now as to how I handle him in the future, I know my life goes on but, ya know something in my head seems to say he'll want to come back and stay, or am I just fooling myself.

Any suggestions on what to do??

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Registered: 01-27-2005
In reply to: luliegirl
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 5:15pm
IMO I think that if he is even THINKING about hooking up w/ her to catch up, he isn't worth it. If he was totally into you, this should not even cross his mind. Obviously, he is not w/ you 100% or he would not even consider it. I tell him to get lost and find someone who respects you and treats you as you deserve to be treated! Best wishes!
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In reply to: luliegirl
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 5:56pm

I hope you told him what he could do with his "I want to call you and talk about it" BS!!!!

I would ask him to call you if and when the ex-gf is out of the picture and he decides he'd like to move forward with dating you, but not before then.

But in the meantime, move on and date other people as though there's no chance of him coming back.

Sheri

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Registered: 08-02-2005
In reply to: luliegirl
Tue, 08-02-2005 - 8:27pm

Well, I am leaning toward the idea of just saying goodbye and if your ever single again call me and maybe I'll still be free.

Although, I have known and seen him just about everyday at my work, I waitress and he comes in every morning and when he first found out that I was interested in him more than a friend, he was happy, but from what I gather this ex is someone he had been with 10 yrs. ago and just recently she came into the pic, and I think it was because she had found out about him seeing me, so I think she is a game player, one of those she's got him but I'll get him girls cause she knows he does still care.

Anyway I look at it, I am the one on the outside and it sucks to me right at this moment cause I was really starting to get more interested and well, he knows this now as in our phone conversation he really wanted me to tell him what I felt and I thought it best just to shut up.

Thanks for your input I do appreciate it alot, I wish this situation was different
but how could it ever be now?