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Let It Out
| Wed, 08-10-2005 - 1:23pm |
Monday's topics about getting over a cheating partner made me ponder relationships and vulnerability in general. Does time really heal all wounds? I don't know if it heals ALL wounds, but it certainly helps bring clarity and perspective. But so does communication. In the post from Monday, the person stated she was dating a solid, reliable man and there was no reason to doubt him, yet she was still apprehensive because of a previously cheating partner. Just voicing those fears to her partner might help alleviate the anxiety. Sometimes just physically voicing the concern takes the power away from it.


Nice post, first of all.
This whole sharing of the feelings thing is a new one for me. I know that I did with my xh and it usually didn't go over all that well, so with my current lovah I was very apprehensive to share them. Ours is essentially a FWB r'ship yet there are strong, genuine feelings of love and respect. He's truly become one of my very best friends. I think the timing may just be wrong. But I digress. I remember expressing to him one night how much I care for him and how much he means to me, which was a totally scary thing to do, and he made me feel safe and respected while listening to me. Of course I went to bed thinking, "Well, I guess that's the end of him. He'll be avoiding me like the plague." But the next day, when I saw him, he treated me just as he always had: with respect, humor and kindness. Amazing!
That was several months ago and in these past months I have grown more and more comfortable sharing *me* and what a great feeling to still be accepted by him. Last week we had a particularly emotional exchange that left me feeling very vulnerable. I asked him if we were still friends and he gave me the "you silly girl" look and said "Of course we're still friends, do you really think I would stop being your friend just because you expressed your feelings?"
He's doing this girl's wounded heart so much good.