What does he really want from me.
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What does he really want from me.
| Sun, 08-14-2005 - 2:08pm |
I meet Kenny six months ago while I was working for in a kitchen. I had broken up with a boyfriend a month after starting to work there that week Kenny broke up with his girlfriend. Shortly after that we started to fool around. Now six months later, we talk about everyday. See each other three or four times a week. He has met my parents and kids. He has made a point to introduce me to his family and friends. We do "couple" things but we had a talk not that long ago about where this is going. He says he loves me and all the feelings that I have for him are returned but not as deeply. He says that he is too busy with his job and I'm too busy with my job and school. Besides right now I need a friend not a boyfriend. I know that I'm the only woman he is seeing and I know he isn't sleeping with anybody else. I'm just really confused as to what is going on. I get all the rights and rewards of a girlfriend just not the title or the commitment. I really do love him and I know he feels the same.
How can I get beyond "just friends"? Does he even want for it to go any farther than that?
How can I get beyond "just friends"? Does he even want for it to go any farther than that?

i think this is one instance where you should listen to the words, not the actions. it sounds like you had a mature discussion and he told you very clearly how he felt:
"He says he loves me and all the feelings that I have for him are returned but not as deeply."
that sounds honest to me. he doesn't love you as much as you love him. i'm not sure there's anything you can do to change that.
He told you that he doesn't have the same deep feelings for you that you have for him. He told you what he wants from you.........he wants to sleep with you and kind of hang out, but he does not want to be your boyfriend.
I wouldn't be satisfied with this arrangement.