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| Sun, 08-14-2005 - 10:45pm |
Hi all. I'm new here.
Well I've known this guy for 3 years and we talked before but not seriously. Anyway, 2 months ago he approached me and wanted to start dating me. The thing is he had a baby on the way!! I told him it wouldn't work out because of that and he told me him and the girl didn't mess around. I didn't believe him at first but he tried to do anything to prove he didn't. He said they broke up and messed around a few months ago and are just friends due to the upcoming baby.
Well I gave him a chance silly ol me. We started dating and everything and I started getting attached. He called me soo much, we would talk for hours. Then all of a sudden as of last month he started acting wierd turning his phone off and all. I didn't really pay it any mind. I would ask him was he still messing with the girl, but he still denied it. Well one time I checked his phone and I saw her # under "wife". I told him about it and he said he'd change it he had it like that when they were in a relationship. From there I should of quit him, but I didn't because I was sooo into him... uugh my emotions are tooo strong.
Anyway recently he went away and I called but no answer. Next thing you know his mother answered his phone. All this time I thought we had something going on, he was still messing with his baby mother. The mother told me!!! I couldn't believe it. My heart dropped. Then the mother started blaming me for putting myself in that predicament. I told her how everything started and how he denied dating his baby mother. She said they were still dating. Now the mother looks as me as a home wrecker and doesn't like me. Come to find out my so called ex said he doesn't want anything to do with me anymore and said other uncalled things about me. He used me!!!
I am sooo hurt. Please talk to me about the situation and what I should do now. How do I get over this jerk??

What a creep! Not only did he use you, but he cheated on the woman that's about to have his baby?! A guy has got to be really low to do that! You know what? I know it doesn't seem that way right now, but you are a very lucky person. You got to find out the truth about what type of a guy he was pretty quickly. Could you imagine having a child with a man like this? I know it still really hurts. But remember just a couple of short months ago, you were living your life fine before he came into, and in a little bit you'll go back to that same life without.
Just take care yourself for now. Give yourself permission to cry if you need to. But, then, see him for what he was, nothing more than a lowlife that came into your life for a short period of time. Focus on living a better life without him. Spend time with family and friends. Do something nice to treat yourself. Take care of your body by sleeping well, eating well, and exercising, because those things will improve your mood. Find things to keep yourself busy with. I'm sure with time you'll be fine.