help me with this guy...

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Registered: 08-22-2003
help me with this guy...
Mon, 08-15-2005 - 10:48pm

hi there, im new - was on the online dating board when i was OLD, but now i've gone back to real life dating. Although not as many dates - I have gone on a few the last fwe months. The guy I need help with is pretty great. He is the brother of a best friend. Anyways, Im a dating disaster. I can give the best advice to friends, people online such as you guys on these message boards... but with myself, Im a disaster. I am too open too soon with guys and I think I really scare them away most of the time. I can't and dont play games.

So far, Ive been myself with the guy, we have gotten to know each other well the last month and half... and I know he likes me. Dont want to screw it up though. He is 5 hours from em though. Not too keen on long distance relationships, but Ir eally haven't felt this way in a long time about anyone. There is something very special with our connection and worth trying out to see if something serious develops... but hes visiting next week (it'll be about 2 weeks since i last saw him)....

How do I approach his visit? I really want to ask him what the heck is going on w/ us, but yes I know, that will scare him off. How do I express how much I like him w/o scaring him off? Then I know he wants us to be more physical - but I dont want to be yet because hes my friend's brother. I really just want to thnk things through and having a sexual relationship I think it'll complicate thing s too much. my friend vows up and down her brother is very honorable and respectful w/ the women he dates, and shes always talked so highly of him. So i know hes a nice guy.

just need some help and guidance to not screw it up, please :)