"taking our time" and "waiting"?
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| Thu, 08-18-2005 - 9:10pm |
Hello,
Thank you in advance for listening...
I met this really great guy about 3 months ago. We hit it off and have been seeing more and more of each other. We sort of made a decision to not get intimate right off the bat, which was a new thing to me and I found it very nice and a great idea. However, as the time has passed, I have begun to wonder more and more about his level of interest in me (or women in general!) and what was going on! We kissed for the first time about 1 month ago, which led to making out, which led to deciding to sleep together for the first time just recently. However, when the time came, he became very clingy in bed and didn't really approach me with passion, but with clingyness. In the end, it didn't happen. I don't know what to do! He said he had some problems with erection in the past and some anxiety around that, ...understandably.
I told him I was understanding about things but at the same time it was a problem and he needed to get help to work through whatever was the problem because I want physical intimacy and sex to be part of our relationship. Which is true. And that this is an area I probably can't help with. He's such a great guy I don't want this to be the end. But at the same time, I'm 34 and want a family some day, I have developed some doubts about him due to this endless waiting and now the let down the other night. Should I move on?
We truly want the same things on many levels, marriage, children, stability, security, etc. This is the first time I have felt that things could really work out for me in the sense of getting what I want out of a relationship. He's good to me. That feels great.
Anyhow, if you have suggestions I would truly be grateful.
Have a good night.
Darcy

Did he make an appointment with his doctor right after your discussion? If so, I'd hang in there and see what happens...he's trying. If not, I'd reconsider the relationship.
Sheri
Thank you for the response. Yes, he said that he was going to make an appointment and then when we talked on the phone last night he said he had come home from work and checked on his medical benefits. We're spending time together this weekend and I'm going to try and find an appropriate time to ask.