Would you date your HS sweetheart,again?
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| Sun, 08-21-2005 - 6:47pm |
My high school sweetheart and I broke up long time ago, at least five years ago due to me being in college, him starting his own career. I believe I was a bit of a drama queen back then but feel I have matured. I am not sure if he has matured also, but I am getting ahead of myself. :)
I went on classmates.com and got in touch wit my highschool sweet heart, just dropped him an email on there asking how life has been treating him. He emailed me right back and said he was glad to hear from me, he misses me, and went on to ask how myself and family are.
I just wonder is it ever a good idea to give it another chance? I mean should I just not continue the email correspondence b/c I feel there is a good chance we could end up together again...I guess what my big question is do people really change ever, do you think they can mature?
THanks for taking the time to read this...
Lisa

<< I guess what my big question is do people really change ever, do you think they can mature?>>
Yes, and absolutely yes. Ok, it's only been 5 years ... you're both still young ... but, most certainly, you're both different people now. If we never outgrew our "high school selves" that would be pretty sad! hehehe.
As for "would you date your HS sweetheart again?"
Personally, SURE! hehehe. If he wasn't married with two kids. ;-) I saw my HS sweetie at my 10-year reunion (which was, gosh, 7 years ago) .... he was still a great guy, and I met his wife, too ... he introduced me to his wife and told her I was his HS girlfriend, and we laughed and got nostalgic for a bit. I was really happy for him, too, because his wife seemed like a really great gal. But, it was nice to see him that happy and secure enough in his marriage to say "hey, this was my girlfriend back in the day" (ha!) I mean, it was high school afterall.
Anyhoo .... why not keep the email convo going and see if you guys can reconnect .... just be sure he's not already taken! :) And of course, it would probably only make sense if you're both still in the same area, too.
Good luck! ! !
I'd give it another chance, however, just remember a few things. You BOTH aren't the same people, people always change, and instead of pickig up where you left off in HS, you have to start over, start slow, date, etc.
Basically, it's like dating a guy you don't konw, but well, but you do konw him. lol.
I did date my HS sweetheart again, after being apart for about 4-5 years, however, we fell back into our old patterns and we ended up going our separate ways, MOSTLY because neither one of us, especially me, matured much.
Lastly, I have seen my HSS a few times in the past 10 years. Everytime, he was with a gf and had a mistress. The last time I talked to him, his gf wanted to get married, but he said his mistress was upset about it, even though he reassured her he'd still see her.
Made me realize, I sooooo would not want to be with him EVER again.
I have changed immensly in the past few years. He changed from the loyal loving guy I dated. Everyone changes. It's just a matter if you both change in a good way, at the same time.
Hugs and good luck.
~pineapple_girl