How can I be sure?

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Registered: 08-22-2005
How can I be sure?
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Mon, 08-22-2005 - 10:00pm
I am a recently divorced mother of a 17 month old little boy. I have been dating someone for 11 months now. His wife left him for his best friend a year and 1/2 ago. However, he is not interested in getting his marriage dissolved. What do I do? He says I make him happy, he says he loves me and only me. I do not bring up or ask him to move forward with the dissolution afraid I will push him away. I have many insecurities anyways... she is blonde and gorgeous and I redhead and average. He is 9 years younger than I. I can't imagine my life without him. I want more, but don't want to rush someone that is obviously not ready to be rushed. I am scared and confused. I love him so very much. He has come into my life and made me the happiest I have ever been. He also doesn't tell me everything. He talks with girls all the time and doesn't tell me anything - he has had a party before and not invited me or called me or he really didn't intend to tell me about it until I was missing some of my pop from his refridge and I asked the question. I don't know what to do.. He assures me that I can trust him and I do... He assures me that he would "never" cheat. I am in such an emotional turmoil I don't know what to do or know how I should feel.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 08-22-2005 - 11:57pm

You need to decide what you want...him at whatever the emotional cost to yourself, or a serious, committed relationship. You can't have both, given his situation and his behavior.

Sheri