i'm torn! bad problem last night

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Registered: 12-20-2005
i'm torn! bad problem last night
Fri, 12-23-2005 - 9:11am

Hi everyone...earlier i posted a discussion titled COMPLETELY CONFUSED....well now I have another problem. Last night, my boyfriend and I went to a dance club. Now, I like to dance, a lot and he knows that. but he got really drunk and thought I was avoiding him and wanted to dance with other guys. He started saying things like "Just forget it, take everything back we had, I don't want anything to do with you"....I mean i know he doesn't mean it, but he kept saying stuff like that. i wasn't even avoiding him! and he and i danced together, so i didn't understand the big deal. well we left and drove home and he apologized and I said that i don't know about us anymore, because I shouldn't have to deal with that, I mean yeah it is nice that he is protective, but at the same time, i am a big girl. I had a knot in my stomach and still do because I don't know what to do, it just seems that things are really rocky and I don't know if it is going to work out. BUT then i woke up this morning, with like totally different thoughts. I just thought It wasn't that big of a deal and that I do like him and we'll just get over it and move on. just a little drunken fight...The one hard thing is that If I were to break up with him, I wouldn't know when to do it with Christmas time and all. I don't know if I should just wait till the holidays are over so things go smoother. either way he will be completely hurt and mad. But i also have these feelings that I still want to be with him, but I don't know if I do just so I have things to do and someone to be with because i don't really hang out with anyone else, so I would be really bored. But i do like being around him, so i don't know if that could be the case too. Also, he and I were supposed to go to california next week together, i was hesitant on going because we have only been together 3 months, but I decided to go, thinking in the back of my mind that i shouldn't. Well his cousin called and said we should come another time because it would work better. Could that be a sign? I've also just thought about taking a break for awhile, and seeing how i felt and so i can have some time to figure things out but should i do that now, or wait till after the holidays? I'm thinking i should wait a few more days...gosh I am just so torn right now on what to do, it's not even funny....Please help with advice, suggestions! so my stomach can stop turning!! Thankyou!

Edited 12/23/2005 9:15 am ET by precious2be




Edited 12/23/2005 9:50 am ET by precious2be