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| Thu, 12-29-2005 - 12:49pm |
hello,
I have been dating this guy for a short while (less than a month) and things couldnt be better. We have a great time together and we really have fun. He is really nice, he tell that he likes being with me and happy to see me. Basically, there is a lot of chemistry there, I mean, the connection is so great.
However, he told me yesterday, that even though they were broken up, he was still living with his ex. They broke up recently and they just kept living together, in separate bedroom. that news came as a shock, I had no idea. He told me that out of the blue, telling me he didnt know how to tell me this and that he prefered to tell me now rather than having me finding out by my own. According to him, there is no reason for me to worry, it is really over for them, has been that way for a while and now that he have an incentive for moving (me) he will start looking for a place of his own.
He was very reassuring, but I cant help feeling insecure about this. I really dont like this. Even if it happen to me before to live with an ex while dating a another guy, and there was nothing between me and the ex at that point. I dont want to stop seeing him, but this make me feel insecure, quite insecure and really suspicious. I want to trust him but I dont know if I should. I am so afraid of getting hurt.

Marie
Hmmm...I have a different perspective than Marie's. I don't think that's something you keep from someone at all...that needs to be discussed as soon as the two of you start getting involved (more than a date or two).
I would put things on hold until he has moved out...plus, if they were serious enough to be living together, he's probably not the best bet for a healthy relationship if he hasn't had any time to get over her (you are likely to be a rebound, in other words).
Sheri