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| Thu, 01-19-2006 - 9:04am |
Hi, just wondering if anyone has any personal stories of prenuptual agreements???? I am a 30 year old woman who just recently broke off an engagement because I would not sign the one my ex-fiance gave me. I asked him to change on one issue in the agreement and he would not. It was either sign as is or no wedding...and look where I am now. My lawyer who I gave the agreement to was like uh you are crazy to sign as is. I know these agreements are becoming more and more popular among couples. I just hope I made the right decision. Believe me I am not out for money, I just want to be treated like a fair and equal partner, like marriage should be. Any advice or info would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you,
Mich
Thank you,
Mich

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mich302006...
Pianoguy knows men (and a few women) who INSIST on "a pre-nup" prior to marriage. Call it a form of insurance that if their union doesn't work...EVERYTHING ISN'T GONNA BE SUBJECTED TO A 50/50 SPLIT. .
To be honest, I don't advocate nor am I against a pre-nup. If a person has worked hard to acquire a rare stamp, coin or CD collection...does it have to be shared when you suddenly go from single to married? Sharing stuff together and holding on to what you've owned earlier is a tough call!
However...
It seems (to me) that the PNP (PRE-NUP PROCESS) should be an equal option for both partners? If a man insists that a woman not claim something of his prior to marriage...then shouldn't the women have the chance to stake her claim for a material object (or 2) at the same time?
Pianoguy
You absolutely did the right thing. You had a lawyer tell you you'd be crazy to sign it as is, and a guy who didn't love you or respect you enough to adjust one point in it. He was looking out for himself, and the way he was doing so was by not looking out for you, the woman he was supposed to love.
In my own opinion, I would NEVER sign ANY prenup. To me it's a clause to the marriage convenent in preparation for it to fail. It shows a lack of trust in the relationship. It shows that you are going into it not having the attitude that it's until "death do us part".
She posted on the Ask the relationship saver board too. It explains a litle more here:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlrelationsh&msg=24376.1
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Unfortunately there are so many golddiggers out there that have burned successful men that they have ruined it for the good gals who are marrying for love. If a man is successful I can see why he would want to protect himself. I mean look at the statistics in the divorce rates they are huge so marriage nowadays (sadly) is not "death do us part" anymore.
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What!!!!!!! that is soooo crazy it is almost unbelieveable that he went that far. He must think that you are going to try and kill him to keep all his money. That is the only thing I can think of for him to put something that hideous in there. I'm glad you left him, you're one smart woman! :)
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