*** BAD DAY *****

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Registered: 01-17-2006
*** BAD DAY *****
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Sun, 01-22-2006 - 6:57am

Hi all

Well today feel really bad - been a few weeks now since I split up with the ex and really have woke up this morning missing him like crazy. I find it totally bizarre !!!! i know he didn't treat me right and I finished it with him. feel so upset and lonely today and again sit here and wonder did I make the right decision.

why do we feel like this??? - he is still contantly on my mind - think Im going crazy !!!

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 3:54pm

You're just grieving your relationship. I'd also lay money that you're missing 'what could have been' rather than what you actually had.

Get out more. See your friends, keep busy, find a new hobby

good luck.

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Registered: 01-24-2006
Tue, 01-24-2006 - 7:45pm
Keep your head up girl!! Anytime a relationship ends, it feels like you're living in hell for a while. It's a normal thing, but it'll pass. I have found that pampering yourself: shopping, manicures, spa treatments, cruising in a jacuzzi, and basically being self-indulgent totally helps. Time with your girlfriends also helps. Do anything that will take your mind off of your loser ex. Every day that passes, it'll get easier and easier to deal with. Tomorrow will be a better day.
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Registered: 01-16-2006
Thu, 02-09-2006 - 9:45pm

Thats right. Get out with a friend or two. One of the best days I had when I was feeling like you, I took my daughter shopping, we ate lunch out, got our nails done for fun and at the end of the day I remember thinking "wow I didnt think of him all day". And yet I hadn't really wanted to go. It was my daughter's urging to go DO something that made me go. I went for her, and got something out of it for myself in the end! :)

It really does help to get out and do something just for yourself that you enjoy!

~~Ginger~~ :)
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Registered: 02-08-2006
Sun, 02-12-2006 - 6:26pm
Last year my boyfriend of 3 1/2 yrs and I broke up. Turns out he had another girlfriend in a different state for almost 2 years. I was devastated. I was vomiting, couldn't eat or sleep, and was constantly crying. Talking about it and venting helped. Friends can help remind you why you broke up with your ex and why you're better off without him. Eventually I put myself on a 15 min rule. 15 minutes of crying and thinking about him everyday and that was it. I forced myself to go out and do things. I threw myself into my work, school, and friends. I also took good care of myself. I would get my hair done and get up every morning and put on a cute outfit. When I looked good and got attention from other guys it reminded me that I was attractive. Succeeding at work and school reminded me that I had a lot going for me and much to look forward to. Basically, you just have to force yourself to move on. It's hard, I know. I thought I would never be able to be happy again and get over the break up, but I did. My life is so much better off now that I'm not in an unhealthy, draining relationship.
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Registered: 01-17-2006
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 1:06pm

Hi

Thanks for all the advice. I must say I am feeling much better - I still have good days and bad days but I am not constantly thinking about him anymore.

This board has really helpled - again big thank you for all your advice.

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