Am I making a HUGE mistake?
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| Tue, 01-24-2006 - 6:58am |
For nine months this mess has been going on. I first met a guy, who I fell for in May, but he had a gf. We kept in touch though but I finally gave up when three months had passed and he still didn't break up with her.
Then I met my current boyfriend in August. It wasn't exactly love at first sight, but we kept going. Our relationship was so much up and down during fall, and a lot of that depended on that the guy from may finally understood what he wanted (me) and broke up with his gf and kept telling me how much he liked me. He was also so caring and sweet and we have a lot in common. So as soon as things were bad with my bf I leaned on this other guy. I always compared them and this wasn't making anything better.
I felt very bad about this, I didn't know what to do. I wasn't in love with my boyfriend but somehow I still stayed. Mostly I think because I thought I was going to regret it if I left him for someone else.
But in early december I almost broke up with him, I was so sad beacuse I felt something was missing in our relationship. But then we decided to give it another try and see how much we missed each other over christmas.
My bf and I were apart almost 4 weeks. I didn't exactly miss him that much, and I though it would just end. But now when we got back things have been really good. But I don't know if it's going to last. I don't feel I would do anything for him, he is not the love of my life. But I enjoy being with him right now! I miss the deep conversations but I appreciate many other things with him.
So now the first guy told me he can't do this anymore.. he can't keep waiting for me. He doesn't want to be my second choice. I completely understand. But he said he's not sure he can even see me anymore.. and this is making me so sad. I like him so much and I want him in my life. We have so much in common, and he's the most caring guy I could ever dream of. He remembers everything I have ever told him and would never be mean to anyone. He's a 10 in every way, but right now it's just not possible.. if I didn't try things with my bf now I would regret that too.
So what do I do? Should I just let this other guy go? And maybe regret it. The timing hasn't been right for us. I wish it had been.. But am I making a huge mistake if I let him go?

Make sure I am getting this right. The guy from May who did not break up with his gf for over 3 mos though he wanted you is now trying to make you break up with your bf? He doesn’t want to be your second choice but you are his. And this type of guy is a 10 in every way?