Plz help me with this!!

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Registered: 07-15-2005
Plz help me with this!!
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Wed, 01-25-2006 - 1:52am

Hi,

I have posted my problem before and thanks for all the advises. Let me briefly mentioned what happened in past for those who doesn't have a clue.

I met a girl from a church. she needed a job for money, so I allowed her for my family. Finally, she turned out is not a good heart person and keep hurting me or taking my advantages. For example, She will be jealous if a good man has good interent on me. She would break up my change i might have with this guy by making up story. Not once..but it happened many times. She did lot of things just keep me from the good things. And she never appricated all my helps for her in the past.

My problem here is , now, she is back. I am so surprised that she called me and say a hello to me last night. for sure, this girl can be a true friend. In the past, every time she called me because she wanted something from me. We go the same church now, and 90% of the people there is her kinds (come from the same place). That means they are stronge bound together like a family since they all are far from home and work here. She is very active person and smart. Please advise me what I should do with this girl. Should I tell her we are not friend anymore, pls dont pretend we are in front of others. or just be a hello friend with her and keep distance with her. I dont know why I dont feel comfortable with this girl and I am scary or worry when she is around me. To her, if i help her, we are friend, if i cant, she will rise her voice and talk bad to me. She is really wired person i even met in my whole life.

Thanks for your time and reading my post.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 01-25-2006 - 1:21pm
Keep your distance, I doubt she has changed.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
Wed, 01-25-2006 - 3:42pm
There's no reason why you shouldn't be polite (be the better person and don't sink to her level of immaturity by being rude), but there is also no reason why you should be anything more than the polite to her that you would be to anyone else. You don't have to be her friend, and honestly you can't really consider what you had a friendship, because friendship is a two way street of give and take, with her it was all take. There are bad and even evil people in this world, and I'm sorry you had to meet this one.