What Should I do?

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Registered: 01-21-2006
What Should I do?
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Thu, 01-26-2006 - 1:32am
Need lots of help you guys, here goes.
I've been with my high school sweet heart off and on since high school. In the the beginning we didn't have a great relationship because I was young & I guess you could say I was somewhat of a drama queen. Over the years I've matured and I've done away with childish things. My high school sweet heart was diagnosed with a rare cancer a year ago. Since then we have rekindled our friendship and are the best of friends. We had a long talk a few weeks ago because I thought he was sending mixed messages. He said he was not interested in a relationship with me or anyone. He informed me that he is a single (dating) man. And I understand were he's coming from. He is not considered cancer free. He has to go through a battery of tests every 90 days. But those are not his actions whenever I'm around. Whenever he sees me he's very touchy feely and others always mistake us for being a couple. Low and behold we had (safe) sex last weekend, prior to that we had been intimate a year ago. Since then he has been an even bigger sweetie pie. He calls me everyday saying he wants to see me. I have yet to make plans to see him because I have fallen in love with him and I want to protect my feelings.
What should I do and how should I approach this situation.
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Thu, 01-26-2006 - 2:42am
I'd tell him that all his mixed messages are confusing you. Ask him how he sees your relationship. If he says that it's a friendship with sex, then you've got your answer.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 11:13am

pinkbdfly....

It's only PG's 2 cents, but here goes:

Since your high school sweetheart is aware of his "cancer curse"...he's probably VERY NERVOUS about getting involved with anybody! That's the reason you're getting the mixed messages.

What you have to answer are these 2 questions....

1. "Can I STILL LOVE HIM knowing that there's always going to be a health risk in the relationship?"

2. "Do I need constant reassurance that ANY MAN I fall in love with will reciprocate the same amount of feelings for me?"

I won't provide any answers for you. You've got to do that yourself.

Best wishes and warm thoughts...

Pianoguy

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Registered: 01-21-2006
Sun, 01-29-2006 - 4:10pm
Thank you so much your thoughts are greatly appreciated.