What Is His Reason?
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What Is His Reason?
| Fri, 01-27-2006 - 6:55pm |
Hi
I'm very confused right now. My boyfriend has seemed very distant lately. I asked him about why we haven't been spending as much time together and he said he really wants to, but there is a lot going on in his life making him busy. I know that he does work a lot but I can't even seem to get enough time in to really sit down and talk to him and I'm starting to feel alone. I feel that it's me he's trying to push out of his life and that he's just telling me he's busy as an excuse. I don't know for sure if his life is that hectic right now but I am very upset that I feel he is trying to cut me out. What should I do? Do you think that him saying he's always busy is just an excuse?
Thanks

>>Do you think that him saying he's always busy is just an excuse?<<
Well it depends on whether or not he really IS busy. Though I must say that I find it very odd that you feel you know him well enough to call him your boyfriend, but you don't have any idea about whether or not he's honest about being busy. On one hand you say that you know he does work a lot but you also say that you don't know for sure if his life is hectic right now.
Are you sure this isn't a 'Friends With Benefits' type relationship? How long have you been exclusive for?
Hi alana!
"Who knows what really goes on inside the male mind?" Pianoguy can make a few guesses, but that's about it!
It's entirely possible the relationship the two of you have had is ready to burn out? I hate to bring up the possibility of "another woman" so let me guess again? There might be a health issue (connected to work) that your b/f doesn't wish to talk about?
If you HONESTLY feel slighted, neglected or ignored completely by the man...what would happen if you COMPLETELY STOPPED communicating with him for a few weeks? This would leave the ball in his court. And one of two things will happen:
1. He'll pick up the phone and ask what's wrong? Then you can tell him!
2. He'll basically let you fade out of his life? Then you can take action on your own behalf.
Either way, you'll know exactly where you stand where this relationship is concerned.
Pianoguy
There could be a number of reasons. For one I don't know the ages of you too, if your older or younger. Some of the things that you need to figure out is "if" he is really working a lot for a reason or what is actually keeping him busy. Is it just work...school...friends/family. Does he try and make up for him being busy, do you talk about it, does he seem to care? If he can't give specific reasons to you, then it's not worth your time stay in a RL like that.
Bottom line is if he cares about you and keeping the RL, I would have a talk with him. If he makes more excuses, then you may want to think about breaking ties with this guy. Do stuff for yourself to make you happy, and know that there is hope and a guy out there that is grown up enough to tell you what the real deal is. You can only make yourself happy, don't put your world around someone to try and fullfill that.