do all guys like to chase women....
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do all guys like to chase women....
| Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:56pm |
or do some like sitting back and waiting for them to give them attention. Im dealing with a guy who makes the effort from time to time, but majority of it is me initiating conversations....and i know i may not give him enough of a chance to "Chase" me but i get impatient and feel like if i dont say something , he wont...which could be me not being patient enough. I just dont want to be forgotten and have him lose interest in me if we dont talk for a day or something
anyone else going through the same thing or been in that position?

No, not all men like to chase, or are chasers. And I personally don't believe in the black and white statemen "if he likes you, he'll chase you". It can't and doesn't apply for all men. period.
However, you do have to watch what is going on more, because yes, he may not be as interested in you, as you are him. I would see if he initiates as often as you do, or less. When is the last time you talked to him? Give him a few days, don't contact him. Let him contact you. Trust me, if he's interested, shy or not, a few days, he'll wonder what is going on and contact you. But if you're initiating daily stuff, you're not giving him the chance.
And lastly, "not talking for a day", is not giving the guy any space. Let him breathe a little. If you are trying to make him talk to you everyday, then you are chasing too hard. It's one thing to "chase" a shy guy or guy who's not into chasing, but it's another to be in his face.
Listen to inkeddogmom, they know of what they speak :)
Thank you all for your posts!
Its great after a long day of trying to be patient and not really doing too well to see these posts and take a breather. I guess I am used to talking to this guy on a daily basis, we used to date, and are just friends now, and i guess I never really got over him.
Its hard being patient with this guy bc I am used to him pretty much always being around when we were dating. And after we broke up and started being friends again, things were good, we still talked a lot and hung out and we still hang out too pretty often. And even over xmas break we would still talk pretty much daily, maybe twice a day or so. But the month of Jan has been tough bc he has gotten a lot busier with sports and school, and me with school has made me busy. But I guess I still want the same attention as I used to get like a month ago. Its just kinda tough right now.
I know I still love him, but I know things need to change if we ever were to get back together. I guess what I need right now is the attention and support that I give him. I do miss the affection and everything that came with the relationship but I am also learning its ok to be on my own as well and that I can do incredible things without a guy.
Today was kinda a weird day, I had some pretty great news today like a possible job offering and I am going to be a bridesmaid in a friends wedding, and as a friend i was excited and wanted to share the news with him. I spoke to him earlier this morning before all the news, but then sent 2 seperate messages on instant messgenger to tell him about all that bc i thought it would laugh and be excited about it. Nope, nothing. That really kinda disappointed me. I know I should take it as a hint, but I cant help but feel like he wouldnt hurt me like that...
This is where I go back and forth:(