confused Teenager

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confused Teenager
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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 9:23am
Hello. So. I am 19 in college. This guy has liked me since last yr but he looked kinda dorky and akward. This year, he fixed his hair a bit and grew a little and maybe I'm shallow but he looks a bit better even though he is akward and dorky and arrogant too. He basically "stalked" me into going out w him..haha. He would always call me, im me and ask me to hang out till I finally did. We began seeing each other casually and he said he was in love one night intoxicated..I said he wasn't. This was since September. Now it is Feb....We have been without a real title for some time now because I told him I didn't want the title of a relationship..I don't know why maybe because I was scared of what everyone would think...he's not the coolest guy..and i don't love him or anything much. I said ok, i'll try the relationship thing once back in like Nov or so and then said i'd rather go abck to no title...it was just too confining. Now, we have beenkinda dating exclusively and when we go on dates he doesnt offer to pay for me..he alwways says like "how should we split this" If I am sleeping with him and we r bascally ina relationship without the title, we are not seeing anyone else, shouldnt he pay for me once? Even if we went to a fancy restaurant on his birthday and a museum and nice things..he's well off but whatever. Latley he has been kind of talking down to me..and acting even more arrogant. He called me an idiot at dinner once because ir ead something wrong and he went along with it but once he realized what the mistake was, he called me an idiot. The sex is ok..he wants it all the time..but I just dont feel so attracted to him to wanna have sex..and he's starting to get a bit stalker ish. I decided in late Jan i wanted to try to be in a relationship wth him..maybe to see if he would pay for me or what not..he started instant messaging me like 50 times a day and asking to hang out every second and getting super jealous at every guy talking to me. He even watched me to see when i would come back on to AIM on the buddylist and would notice when i would go idle or not. Not its kind of akward and i told him he is acting condescending towards me. He is apologizing but he invited me to stay with him for break at his house for a few days..in 3 weeks..I don't know if I wanna dtay with him or not and I can't realize or decide it..I feel like maybe I can do better..and he is so arrogant and speaks down to me..and i'm not even really attracted to him or liked him from the start..he kinda made me like him but hes crazy aboutme..i can tell. and how can i tell if i want him and that I won't make a huge mistake?Thanks.
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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 9:59am

You’re not attracted to him; he is arrogant and condescending to you. Is this someone you really want to be in a relationship with? What keeps you around is it because you like the attention? Does it make you feel good to have a guy that into you?


Marie

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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 2:30pm

You asked, so I will add my answer:

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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 3:18pm
great advice. now what do i tell him...w o him YELLING or getting mad..break ups are so hard
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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 6:12pm

Breakups are VERY difficult, maybe this is why you've stayed this long, to avoid a nasty outburst.

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Wed, 02-01-2006 - 7:27pm
thanks!