New relationship-how many dates a week?

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New relationship-how many dates a week?
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 11:26am

In your opinion, or based on your past experience, what is normal or expected in a fairly new relationship for the number of times you see eachother a week?

As an example (and in my situation) I've been on about 4 or 5 dates with this guy. We're not exclusive yet, still in the "seeing eachother" phase. I see him about once a week. I have a date with him tentatively for Thursday or Saturday this week. We're off to dinner and a movie. I was then thinking of asking him if he wanted to do something Sunday afternoon/evening (make pizzas from scratch at my place and then maybe go skating or just watch a movie).
I'm not sure when or if we'll talk about the exclusivity thing soon. But in the meantime, I was wondering what kind of pace is considered normal for this stage in a relationship.

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 1:32pm

Once a week sounds about right for casual dating.

Sheri

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:39pm
It all depends on the two people involved. Some would say once a week but in my situation when I first started dating my boyfriend we saw each other everyday. I know that is not the norm but I love it and wouldn't have it any other way. If you want to see him on Sunday, go for it. Ask him if he'd like to hang out with you. For all you know he probably wants to see you more but doesn't want to come off as needy.
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 5:34pm

I agree - there is no such thing as 'normal'.

Thinking back to when DH and I met....we slept together on the day we met. After that, we'd see each other on one weeknight and then spend the whole weekend together - from Friday night through to Sunday evening.

We then moved in together after about 4 months and combined bank accounts not long after.

That was nearly 14 years ago :-)

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Thu, 02-09-2006 - 8:57pm

I agree, there is no norm.

When my bf and I started seeing each other, we would see each other maybe once or twice a month, but we talked everyday. (The living arrangements didn't permit much more than that.) Since I've moved at the beginning of the year he's over almost every week at least once and then we are at his friends place out of town every weekend.

Just go at whatever pace feels comfortable to the both of you.