Could it be a sign???

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Registered: 11-14-2005
Could it be a sign???
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Fri, 02-10-2006 - 8:27pm
Hi people, I have a situation and don't know quite what to think of it, here's what it is. Well I've been in a relationship for almost 2yrs now. I couldn't be more inlove and more confident that this is the person I'm meant to marry. Of course when conflict comes around I might doubt the second part a bit, or wonder. Well recently I've had a few "tense arguements" with my partner, which have all ended in myself crying and wondering why god is facing me with these problems if I belong to this person. I asked God to send me some kind of sign, what i should do, what road to take...I think you get it. Well heres what happened, after asking this of God, the very next day out of nowhere I felt this pain on my hand just totally unexpectingly and I notice like a blister on my finger. Oh all places, there was a blister on the finger inbetween my pinky and middle finger, right hand and because of it I had to remove a ring I wear on that finger(just a ring I bought for myself). Could it be a sign? and if so...what could it mean? Does that finger have any meaning what-so-ever?? I was told that when you get engaged thats the finger your suppose to wear the ring on before marriage and stuff, I don't know if thats just difference of traditions or what, or if its true for all. I don't know if I even believe in signs but I did ask for one, is this it? Give me your thoughts on this...
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Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 02-10-2006 - 9:16pm

If you genuinely believe this is a sign from God, and you are seeking to interpret it, you would be better off consulting your pastor than a group of people on a message board who are bound to have wildly differing religious viewpoints.

If I thought even slightly that God had responded to your request for a sign, I would say that the blister on your finger was meant to motivate you to post here, that you were intended to tell us about the problems in your relationship, and that you were then to act on my advice, which is: Go to counseling. You are right, if you and your boyfriend belonged together, you wouldn't have repeated tense arguments that leave you in tears.

I don't know if God wants your relationship to succeed or not, but it is said that He helps those who help themselves. Try to meet God half way by asking for professional help to deal with any issues you've brought with you. Then, if you decide things can't work out, you will have sought divine intervention and also done all you could to make it work.

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Registered: 11-14-2005
Fri, 02-10-2006 - 11:57pm
Seeing a pastor is something I wouldn't do. I wasn't looking for one right answer, I was infact looking for different opinions. I know that I have to meet God half way and I always have if not most of the way, I only turned to him this once because I felt lost and actually my relationship is perfectly fine at the moment, all relationships go through tough times, some more than others and if you want the relationship then you'd work on your problems and I've given that my all and I'm happy with where I am in my relationship now. So I don't think a counceller can tell me to do something I haven't already done. I wasn't looking for professional answers, just thoughts.
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 02-12-2006 - 11:43pm

This probably won't be much help because I'm an athiest.

But I think some creme, sticking plaster or antihistamines could help the blister on your finger. And that the answer to your relationship problems is in your heart....you've just got to trust your instincts.

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Mon, 02-13-2006 - 9:20am

I might not be the best person to ask. I'm not very religious, but I do believe in a higher power. I just don't believe in signs or that a higher power is going to tell me what to do or not do. I just don't think it works that way.

Take what you will from it, this is an experience and some thoughts I had that you might find helpful...

When I first meet my husband, I was struggling to deal with some personal baggage that I had thought I had put be hind me long ago. As it turns out so was he. As you might expect those first few months were full of up and downs. But in spite of being hurt, angry, sad, and scared, and occassionally outright terrified of what I was feeling and being so vulnerable something always told me we'd get through it. We were a team right from the start.

We didn't go through any of it alone. Somehow we always found the courage and strength to talk it out and to be vulnerable and let each other help no matter scary it was.

It's easy for me to see now that I wans't ready for marriage before I met my husband, because before him I wasn't strong enough or brave enough to put that much faith in a another person and be that vulnerable. I wasn't strong enough to be enough on my own or to be in a relationship for the right reasons. Not becasue of need or even because of love, but because I was ready to be a partner and to share a life with someone I loved and deeply wanted to be with. Not for fear of being alone or dependency or because of some romantic notion or overwhelming feeling, or a sign, but because I loved a person I was really compatible with and willing to have complete faith in.

You see love and marriage for me is about faith. It isn't the same as having faith in a higher power or religion, but it requires the same level of emoional commitment and the same willingness to accept and believe in something you can't touch or see or prove beyond a shadow of a doubt. It's a leap of faith and it's really kind of terrifying.

It doesn't sound like you're ready to make that leap just yet. Maybe it's becasue you aren't with the right person and maybe it's beacsue you just aren't ready yet. That doesn't mean you wont be, but if you're still looking for justification and validation from other people or from signs, then you've still got a ways to go. You aren't ready to make the leap.

Like I said just some thoughts I had. I hope it helps you in some way, it's just my opinion.