Going from friends to dating?!

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Registered: 02-15-2006
Going from friends to dating?!
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Wed, 02-15-2006 - 7:48am

Ok it's the middle of the night but I just have to make a quick post here and get someone's opinion on this. I just can't sleep! :)

I have known a guy, Josh, for almost a year now. We have been friends from the start but there has always been something more.. that little thing that makes us not just friends. We can talk about absolutely anything, we have had very deep conversations about everything, we have fun together, we like the same things etc..

I have had a boyfriend almost the whole time we have known each other. Josh has never tried anything but he has been very open to me about how he feels for me. He knew I liked him too but I had a boyfriend and I never did anything with Josh. Now me and my ex broke up a month ago. That is nothing I regret, I am absolutely positive that was the right decision. Since then me and Josh have spent lots of time together. And now it's been a little different betweens us. Now I can admit to myself that I have feelings for him.

It's always been so nice spending time with this guy. But now it's been different, we have acted more like a couple, done couplish things like having coffee with his friend and gf, taking walks etc. We spent the whole weekend together and I have never had a better time. We went skiing and had such a good time, our friends think we are the perfect couple and can't understand that we are "just friends". And of course I have felt that there was something more.

Then he invited me for valentine's dinner at his place.A very nice dinner, he had really put an effort in making it nice - lots of candles, special wine he knows I like.. we had a great time just like always. Then I got roses and chocolate and a sweet sweet card telling me how much he liked me. I was so overwhelmed.. I'm not used to a guy treating me like that. Josh is the sweetest guy, he treats me so good, he cares about me and everything.

I just wanted to be close to him. Then there was our first kiss. It was nice, we just couldn't believe it happened. He said he didn't expect that.. that all he expected was a good night kiss. And that he had imagined our first kiss on a beach we sometimes take walks on. After that first kiss everything felt just like before, we continued to talk about everything but now we could be a little more close than before.
This was very nice but at the same time it felt a little weird. I mean we have known each other for so long WITHOUT doing anything like this. It was really nice, but at the same time it was so different!! I have NEVER kissed him good night before.

Is it normal to feel this way? I know how much I like him, I told my friends just a few days ago that I would do anything for this guy, anything to make him happy.
I love spending time with his friends, I love spending time with him, it's just that this felt a little weird.. I don't know what will happen now... I don't know if I should rush into a relationship so soon. But I know I want him in my life.. I'm just afraid things will change between us after this.
Well... what do you think?? Thankful for anything!! I have never started dating a friend. I have always started dating earlier boyfriends without knowing them before, so this is very new for me.. anyone who has experience with dating someone who you were friends with before?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-16-2006 - 11:31am

ripcurlgirlie...

Pianoguy immediately got 2 songs playing inside his head after reading your post.

"YOUNG LOVE" by Sonny James.....and "IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO" by Todd Rundgren. So if you can spare a minute, why not try and reference both?

If Josh likes you as much as you think he does....the "spoiling" and "pampering" will probably continue? If not...chalk it up to VALENTINES DAY and maintain the friendship the 2 of you have had?

Since a few days have passed (since V-DAY), what's wrong with asking Josh if he 'enjoyed the kiss the 2 of you shared together?' Depending upon his response...you'll know if (quoting the late composer, Steve Allen) "this could be the start of something big?"

Pianoguy