MEN: what are you thinking when...

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Registered: 09-18-2005
MEN: what are you thinking when...
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Thu, 05-18-2006 - 5:21am
initiating a relationship? one of my girlfriends has been flirting with this shy guy at her school for a month or so and shes waiting for him to make a move, but hes not coming with anything. but when they are together (working on projects, etc) there is obvious chemistry. but shes gettin stressed that hes not puttin any effort into it! do you guys think about this stuff like we do or is he maybe not realizing that hes not meeting her halfway?? any advice would be great, thanks!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 8:46am
Just because they have chemistry doesn't mean he isn't attached. Or, she could be feeling it and he not. If he was interested it would be obvious especially since they work on projects together. It seems they just make good team mates and that is it.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 9:03am

Instead of waiting to make a move, why doesn't she just say it!

Men sometimes need a kick start. Your GF should be bold, ask if he has a GF, or ask him if he would like to "hang out" sometime. Honestly in my opinion, men sometimes don't see things, when like girls are flirting with them. Life is too short to be sitting around and waiting, who knows, if your GF asks him out...she could have a great date this weekend :-)

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Registered: 09-17-2005
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 9:54am

Maybe HE'S sitting around thinking the same thing about her: "Why won't she initiate anything?"

Is there some reason why your friend can't make the first move? You even said he's a shy guy so if for some reason she thinks the man should always make the first move then this is not the guy for her.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-18-2006 - 12:00pm

A guy who is interested in a woman romantically, who is emotionally healthy, and who is available for a relationship, WILL make that interest clear and ask her out. If he's not doing so, he's not interested, not emotionally healthy and/or not available.

She can try giving him a small push and make her interest clear by saying something like, "hey, if you'd like to go to that movie we talked about, give me a call". If he doesn't follow up, then he's not one or more of the above 3 things.

Sheri