Is he interested?

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Registered: 08-28-2003
Is he interested?
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Mon, 05-29-2006 - 3:59pm
I recently got back from a long weekend away with a group of friends and need some advice on a guy I met. He is a friend of one of my friends and came along for the trip. We got on really well and he seemed really interested in me, we kissed most nights while we were out and I really like him. I hoped that when it was time to go home he would ask for my number but he didnt, he just gave me a kiss and then we went our seperate ways. Im feeling down now though cos I enjoyed spending time with him and would really like to see him again. I know if he wanted to he could ask around and get my number from friends and I could also do the same with his. The question is should I get his number and contact him, but I dont want to look clingy if he's not interested, or should I leave it and see if I do hear anything from him again. Why are guys and girls so different - it seems that a guy can spend days with a girl and be really close but not worry about seeing them again whereas girls always seem to get more attached?
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Registered: 04-11-2003
In reply to: lisah06
Mon, 05-29-2006 - 4:55pm
Do you know for a fact that he is single and available?
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Registered: 08-28-2003
In reply to: lisah06
Mon, 05-29-2006 - 5:19pm
Yes he is definitely single... We talked about relationships a bit and he said that he hadnt met anyone that he wanted to have a relationship with yet.
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Registered: 04-11-2003
In reply to: lisah06
Mon, 05-29-2006 - 5:39pm

Did you say goodbye to him in private? If there were others around, that could be why he didn't ask for your number ... maybe he was flustered or embarrassed in front of others?

If it were me, I would probably wait a few days and if I still felt the same way about him (after having time to digest the weekend and all that went on between the two of you), I would try to get his number or email address from one of your friends. I wouldn't worry about appearing "clingy" - I don't think contacting someone you shared good times with (to say hello and that you'd like to keep in touch if he does) is clingy, just friendly and assertive. You might as well give it a shot ... he could be feeling the same way. Even if he's not, you'll know and you will have taken the chance.

carriebgirl

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Registered: 08-28-2003
In reply to: lisah06
Mon, 05-29-2006 - 5:50pm
Thanks for your reply Carrie - perhaps I will leave it a few days and see if i hear anything then. We did say goodbye in private, thats why I was a bit disappointed when he didnt ask for my number or mention seeing each other again. I am not likely to bump into him at all. There is one occassion in a couple of months time when I know I will see him again but thats it.