attracted to him- awkward

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Registered: 05-14-2005
attracted to him- awkward
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Fri, 06-02-2006 - 7:12pm
There is a guy that I have met a couple times over like three years and never really talked to, but been in a group setting with. the first time he told a friend that he thought i was pretty, but this was years ago. i'm very shy, and i don't see him much, but sometimes like we walk past each other or see each other across the way (in school)... i feel like i've made it awkward by getting nerovus and not saying hi... did i mess it all up? it's nothing serious just i find him to be incredibly interesting and intelligent as well as attractive...i don't know him well but he seems like i could really like him if we knew each other better. he's friends with a lot of my friends, but i wouldn't be able to tell them. i'm nots ure what exactly i'm looking for in terms of advice, but any comments on the situation or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. thanks!
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 06-02-2006 - 11:17pm
If you know him for 3 years and he hasn't asked you out or even talk to you in that time, I'd venture to say that he's not that interested in getting to know you more than looking at you in the hallway. However, if you feel like trying to get to know him more, ask one of your common friends to introduce you to him and see what happens.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 06-04-2006 - 1:17pm

bitterstrangers...

Pianoguy suggests you "stop hiding behind your shyness" and SAY HELLO TO THIS GENTLEMAN!

Don't recap what you didn't do for the past 3 years. Look at today and every day that follows as 'a new opportunity' to make a potential friendship STRONGER!

Should something more serious come out of it...TERRIFIC! If you just develop a good friendship together, WHAT'S WRONG WITH THAT?

I think if you're afraid to take 'the first baby step at an introduction' by yourself, convince a trusted friend (who knows you BOTH) to intercede and introduce you!

Life's too short...and staring at another human being, particularly one you happen to be interested in, will get you NOWHERE!

GOOD LUCK!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 06-04-2006
Sun, 06-04-2006 - 2:52pm
Don't waste another minute! If you can't do much more than just saying hi or looking at him and smiling at first, DO JUST THAT! He'll respond in kind if the feeling is mutual. If he ends up being "the one" you'll regret delaying your happiness. Yes, I'm a romantic optimist, but these things DO happen.