is he the one for me or not??

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Registered: 06-02-2006
is he the one for me or not??
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Mon, 06-05-2006 - 10:17pm
i have been with my boyfriend for the past 3 years this coming july. hes the first one i have had a serious relationship with. he's the one that i lost my virginity to. we weren't dating long before we moved in together 8 months into the relationship i just turned 18 then and then i got pregnant a month later. i was getting ready to graduate from school and he was out of school for 2 years then. after gradutation i had a misscarriage and he was there and everything but really he never told me his true feelings on me having a misscarriage. he to this day won't talk to me about it and its been almost 2 years at the end of the month. since he turned 21 he has been more drawn away from me than usually hes almost 23 now and hes still being the same way. he's out all the time with friends and he goes and does the guy thing all the time. when everyones girlfriends go with the guys i get left home alone never gets invited along. or he will make plans with everyone and forgets me and never has much time for me anymore. hes even asked me to marry him and we made plans to get married on our or around our 3 or 4 year anniversary and no he dont want to get married right way he told me to pick my wedding dress out and the girls dresses so i did now he dont want to and he now has decided he dont want kids either. he says he has dreams of being a dirtbike racer and everything and he told me that he wants me to be there for him. he forgets i have feelings too. well if anyone can help me please let me know what to do. he tells me all the time he loves me and cares for me and everything and i think he does but i never know he could be just playing with my heart.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 06-06-2006 - 9:09am

Your feelings are valid also. If you want to marry and have a desire for children then this may not be the relationship for you. Sit down and think about where you want to be in 10 yrs and ask your boyfriend what his plans are. If they do not match then this isn’t right for you and you should find someone who is after the same future as you.

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