helpless?

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Registered: 03-19-2006
helpless?
Tue, 06-06-2006 - 10:34pm

Hey everyone,

i posted a long time ago on a different board and much to my chagrin nothing has helped so far.....hopefully you'll be able to share some good advice.

so, here's the dilema...there's a reciprocated love between me and my former TA in college...we never did anything inappropriate while i was taking the class...we didn't even have to broach that subject for a mutual understanding...but we talked a lot....watched A LOT of football on school tvs during breaks.....talked for HOURSSS on a.i.m. about march madness...ran pools of brackets for NCAA.....talked for hours on the phone about life, what we want in a significant other, where we see this going.....etc....and he slipped in the L word...for a while it was only in response to jokes i'd make about him when we were joking around and he'd respond "awwwww love you too babe:-P" and then he slippped it in in a voicemail he left me...and it's just become a regular good-bye thing......and it just feels sooo right! but mutual friends have been asking questions for a while and people have started talking spreading rumors like we've had an affair while he was my TA, etc...is there any good way to ease into things with our friends.....and my parents.......i have no idea where to start with them....someone please help!!!.....cause the other night he told me if this was too much for me to tell him and it'll be over....and he just wants what's best for me....even if that means we can't be together cause he in no way wants to be any sort of burden on me and just wants to see me happy even if that means distancing himself from me....

-Jillian