i don't know any more

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2006
i don't know any more
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Thu, 06-08-2006 - 11:02pm
i have been in a relationship for 3 years. we are suppose to be a couple. i feel like he thinks that i am here for taking care of him and he hasn't got to do anything. I do all the house gardening and totaly anything else that has to be done. we haven't had sex except 2 or 3 times. he likes to look a girls and will make noises. we work a job where we work 4 days and off 4 days. the days that we are off he sleeps all day and night only getting up to eat. i want to screen i feel like i and by my self. help me, i feel like i should tell him to go. am i wrong?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-21-2004
Fri, 06-09-2006 - 1:24am

Wait a minute, I want to make sure I'm clear on this ... you've been in a relationship for 3 years, and you guys have only had sex 2 or 3 times, ever? If so, that's not a relationship. I'm not sure what it is ... without more information or clarification on the above, but if I'm inferring the above correctly, what you're not is a couple if you've only had sex 2 or 3 times in 3 years.

Perhaps more info is needed. Thanks.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2006
Fri, 06-09-2006 - 8:55am
yes we only have sex 2 or3 time in 3 years. he shows little or no affection. no hugs or kisses. i am tired, i do everthing and he does nothing. i really care for him. but, i have had it. we talked about it and he agreed that he would try and start getting involed. but he hasn't. we live in my house, and i am remolding it. he does nothing to help. i do all the carpenter work and painting. he won't help in the yard like, deweeding the garden or flower beds. ya, see i feel like it not worth it. he talks about his x-wife that was beautiful, so he says. he tell me he loves me, don't they say love shows in actions. there is no show here.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2004
Fri, 06-09-2006 - 8:48pm
Time to get rid of this oaf, and make room in your life for a real man--or a cat, or a hamster. You deserve to be making a home for something that will love and appreciate you.