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| Thu, 06-08-2006 - 11:49pm |
I dont know if any of you have had the kinda problem i'm having so im hoping at least someone could give me a little advise. Okay, well i've been dating my b/f since feb. but we've known each other for the last six years. Between those six years and now we have went through alot of obstacles, such as him having a baby my my ex-friend through trickery which he didnt know was my friend at the time and me going with his best friend for about a year. Even though we had our own relationship with others we still had feelings for one another and after so long we finally gave into temptation and started going out after the six years. First, problem is his baby mama aint to fond of me even though we was friends in the past since she started to go out with him while he was tryna talk to me. I dont really care about what she thinks anymore b/c he's obviously not into her anymore, but only the child that they have together and i completely respect his role as a father. I'm not to sure if his baby mama know we going out, but a part of me doesnt want her to since she clearly told me she would do whatever it takes to make sure nothing happened between us in the first place if we ever did decide to go out. So what i wanna know is should i just bite the bullet and let it be known that we together or keep out relationship to ourselves? by the way she can be kinda violent which is another negative against me telling her.
Now besides his baby mama drama i also have another issue that is i think slowly progressing into something. Even though i know we going out, for some reason he doesnt seem to acknowledge me as his g/f when we around his friends, but yet he aint afraid to tell it to his mom and dad which is fine and dandy. We seem to just have the same relationship as friends as we did six years ago except there are "intimate moments" involved. To me it just feels like i have to do everything in the relationship, when its usually him doing that job. The only time he seems to wanna see me is when we gonna have one of our "intimate moment" and then right after that he doesnt talk to me until the next time i come over there. I dont even wanna think that he just thinks of me as his pleasure pleaser for a moment than we just go our own ways until another time, but to me it just seems like he was more concerned about me before we started going out and now that we are going out he's just not concerned as much. I always have to call or text him now and it never use to be like that. I know he has duties to his son, which is fine, but is it really to much time to spare 30 seconds to call your g/f to see if she's at least alive and breathing? I dont wanna keep thinking in the back of mind "am i still his g/f or just his friend" since we dont talk as much as before. The point im tryna make is, should i tell him how i feel about our relationship and how i see him treating me as his g/f or just end what we have now and go back to what we were before, which was friends?? I really need some advice. Thanks.

Looks like he has won the prize and the chase is over. He doesn’t feel the need to do what he did to get you because you have stayed comfortable in how things have been going.
Oh boy.
"The only time he seems to wanna see me is when we gonna have one of our "intimate moment" and then right after that he doesnt talk to me until the next time i come over there. I dont even wanna think that he just thinks of me as his pleasure pleaser for a moment than we just go our own ways until another time"
You don't want to think you're just his booty call, but sorry to tell you, you are. By the very definition of a booty call, you're it. Why he tells his parents you're his girlfriend could be anything from for their sake to you cutting off the deal if he didn't. If this is how it's been since you two started "dating", then it sounds as if you haven't been dating at all, you've just started having sex.
Oh okay, I thought you meant he actually didn't call or talk to you at all in between sexual intercourse interludes. Really, don't put any ounce of truth in him *saying* that you aren't a booty call when you ask him. He's not a moron, if he says yes it'd stop.
I have to warn you. If you've had to "bluntly ask more than once if im just a booty call", then the answer is yes. Never believe the words someone says when everything else about them says something else. Says the opposite enough to the point where "more than once" you ask. The doubt is placed, by him, more than once.