why is it that!!

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Registered: 06-09-2006
why is it that!!
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Fri, 06-09-2006 - 4:53am

hey ladies WHY IS IT THAT MEN COULD JUST DO US WRONG WHY IS IT THAT WE DECIDE TO KEEP HOLDING ON??

WHAT I HAVE LEARNED FROM MYSELF AND OTHERS IS THAT WITH ALL THESE MESSAGE BOARDS AND DIFFERNT PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES GIVING US ADVICE WHETHER IT BE FAMILY FRIENDS ARE SRANGERS WE ALL OUR INTELLIGENT ENOUGH TO KNOW THE OUTCOME OF THE SITUATION WE EITHER BE IN DENIAL OR IT JUST HURTS THAT BAD WE DONT WANT OT ACCEPT IT THATS WHY WE GIVE GUYS THE BENIFIT OF THE DOUBT WHEN WE KNOW ITS BS!!!! AND SOME OF US UNFORTUNATEDLY ARENT STRONG ENOUGH TO JUST BE BY OUR SELVES LIKE ME FOR EXAMPLE I CANT STAND BEING ALONE ITS SO DEPRESSING SO WIT THAT BEING SAID I PUT UP WITH ALOT OF BULL CRAP THAT I DONT HAVE TO BUT I CHOOSE TO AND ITS SAD BECAUSE I COULD SAVE MYSELF ALOT OF HEARTACHE!! BUT I CHOOSE TO DO THINGS OUT OF DESPERATE MEASURES THAT ONLY LEAVES ME FEELING SAD WHEN WILL I CHANGE ?? I DONT KNOW SAD TO SAY! MOST OF US DONT HAVE GOOD LUCK WHEN IT COMES TO GUYS AND SOME OF US DO I JUST HAPPEN TO FALL IN THE CATEGORY OB BAD LUCK! BUT HEY WHAT IS A GIRL SUPPOSE TO DO I MEAN IM ONLY HUMAN I HAVE NEEDS JUST LIKE THE NEXT PERSON SO FROM NOW ON I AM TAKING SITUATIONS WITH GUY FOR WHAT IT IS NOTHING MORE NOTHING LESS !!

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Fri, 06-09-2006 - 7:46am

Charlie, in your first paragraph you use the word "we" which would indicate that you believe this is something that all women do. However only some women tolerate crappy relationships. At least, I've never done what you're describing. I'm guessing that in your case it's a self esteem issue. That you believe yourself incapable of finding a decent guy.

I most certainly don't believe in 'bad luck' when it comes to dating. We each get what we expect and work for in life. If we make wise choices when choosing a partner, we will have good relationships. It's as simple as that. Dating is about choice. We can choose to put up with bad relationships or we choose to leave. There is no "luck" about it.

Look, I don't like to be alone either, but I'd prefer to be alone than be in a crappy relationship. In the past, I've dumped the crappy guys and found new ones. And I did it again and again until I eventually found Mr Right. We've been together 13 years now. Are blissfully happy with two wonderful kids.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 06-09-2006 - 10:09am

I have feel in those categories before. But, I choose to think of myself for a change. When I first came to these message boards I posted like crazy on the Should I Sty or Should I Go. All the time getting the same responses but it did not make me get on. From the boards I read message of courage and strength from many of the ladies. They had went through much more then I and still was able to get out of it. I learned there is more to life then what I was trained to think, life is not always about other people, having a relationship, being married, etc.. Life is about me. It is what I put in that I get back. I learned the more I put into myself the better off life began to be for me.


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