What is he thinking?

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Registered: 03-10-2006
What is he thinking?
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Thu, 06-22-2006 - 3:38pm

I posted on here a while ago, but I have a question about a different guy I've been seeing now. We went out last Friday night and I stayed over, and the next morning when he dropped me off at home, he said he'd call me. Well, I have a friend coming to stay with me this weekend, so I knew I was on a tight schedule, so I called him and asked if he was free for last night or tonight. He said he had plans for early in the evening but that he'd call me afterwards - but I never heard from him!

I deleted his number from my phone so I won't be tempted to call, but I just can't figure out what's going on in this guy's head. He's always been very straight-forward, and over tells me he likes me, etc, and I rather like him. What's going on here, and what should I be thinking about it all?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-22-2006 - 4:15pm

How many dates have you had with him, and was last week the first time you slept together?
Also, how much time has elapsed between dates in the past?

Sheri

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Thu, 06-22-2006 - 4:34pm

The last one was our fourth date and the first time I stayed over, but the second time we slept together. We met a little over a month ago but I was out of town for two weeks in between our second and third date. So basically when I've been around we've gotten together twice a week.

I really think he likes me because of the things he has said to me, but you sound like you think it might be a physical thing. One of my friends says it might be a control issue - that he needs to be the one making the schedule - but I don't know.

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Thu, 06-22-2006 - 4:55pm

No, I was just trying to gather information. It sounds like he may just have decided he's not interested in pursuing things further at this point...the 3-4 date mark is often one point at which a decision like that is made.

Regardless of what he may have said earlier, I just don't think a guy who continues to be *really* interested in you waits so long to schedule another date, so I was curious to see if that was usual for him.

But who knows...all you can do at this point is wait and see what happens. The ball is definitely in his court.

Sheri