Is he blowing me off?

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Registered: 11-30-2003
Is he blowing me off?
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Mon, 07-03-2006 - 10:40am

I met a guy online back in May. We hit it off instantly on the phone…our phone conversations usually lasted three hours and we talked several times a week. He wanted to meet sooner, but I made him wait a month. We finally met in person Sunday before last. Our first date was incredible…easy conversation and the chemistry was definitely there…at the end of the seven hour date…he asked when he could see me again. I told him to call me and could make plans. He called me the next night (Mon) and asked me out for the next night. We planned to do the typical dinner and a movie thing.

I met him at his house on Tuesday and went for a quick bit to eat…trying to make the movie... I asked if he mind if we just watched a movie at his house rather than rushing…

We had a wonderful time just hanging out��we never put the movie on…we slow danced and just cuddled. Of course things did get a little hot and heavy on the couch, and I slowed things down a few times…He was assertive but never pushy…I told him that although I was attracted to him I did not want to rush into anything. He told me that he understood and we didn’t have to do anything that I wasn’t comfortable with…

I became a hypocrite when I ended up in his bed a few hours later…we did not sleep together…but there was some extra curricular activity…I stopped it at that to which he responded “I don’t care if we have sex, I just want to be with you.” We feel asleep in each other’s arm…I woke up a few hours later and made an attempt to get out of bed...he grabbed my arm and pulled me back down onto the bed asking me not to leave. We set the alarm and went back to sleep. When we woke up he was very affectionate…even with my morning breath and all…he walked me to my car and hugged and kissed me goodbye���he said that he would call me….

Well, he never called. Wednesday morning was the last time I spoke to him. I know that he was going out of town for the holiday…it is not uncommon for us to go a few days and not speak with our busy schedules, but I feel like I have been blown off. Was he looking for an easy hook-up? Does a guy usually talk to a girl for a month if that is what he is looking for?

We did agree before we met that if it wasn't going to work out...that we would call and let the person know...

What do you think?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 07-03-2006 - 11:30am

I think that until you know for sure he's back from his trip, there may still be a chance he's not blowing you off. But you need to be prepared for the possibility that he is.

But, yes, at least some men will invest a whole lot of time into a woman if they think they have the chance of getting sex.

Sheri

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Mon, 07-03-2006 - 1:15pm
If there's a few days without talking to each other, and he's out of town for the holiday, then maybe he's call you when he gets back. When a guy gets a hook up...or gets "his cookies" in this case, it's very possible that he just wanted you for that and nothing else. The easiest way to find out is to call him at the end of the week if he doesn't call you first, and ask him what his deal is. If he blows you off, then you've got your answer...and it's time to move on.
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Registered: 07-09-2006
Sun, 07-09-2006 - 12:37am
I hate to say this because I've been in your situation, as recently as just a few months ago. Basically, if they want to they will find you. Move on and find someone who is worthy of your affections and just ignore this guy.