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| Wed, 07-05-2006 - 8:45pm |
This is my first time on here. I have recently gotten out of a 5 yr. relationship and am trying to re-adjust to the norms of the dating world. I recently met a wonderful guy but I am a bit confused about how this all works... not to mention this isn't the most convienent relationship...
I am living in another state for a summer internship. I never thought that I'd be saying this, but I have been dating a senior associate at my firm (he's in a different division, but still...). We clicked right away as friends but it soon developed into more. We've been on several dates over the past month, and I've even met his parents. We both seem to really enjoy each other but I'll be heading back home for another 2 semesters of school at the end of August. After I graduate next year, I plan to move back to this area to work.
I'm not sure what to do, I don't want to completely freak him out by having the "where do you see this going" convo after just a month, but I don't want to end up getting hurt when I leave if he's viewing this as just a short term fling. I've thought about just ending it before either of us get too involved, but I don't want to loose out on a great guy either.
Any thoughts on this... men and women?

Well, presumably you were ok with the risk of this being a summer fling, since you started it without talking to him about what you wanted. If you are NOT ok with that risk, then you need to talk to him NOW or stop seeing him.
If he wants more than a summer fling, he's not going to get freaked out by you bringing it up.
Sheri
angel01184...
Pianoguy is going automatically assume that there are NO hard and fast rules about "dating associates" at your firm? The last thing you want to do is muck up your job by having a social relationship with a 'co-worker!'
I honestly think the "where is this headed convo" should be put ON HOLD until you've dated for a minimum of 3 months! . One of 2 things are likely to happen...
A. YOU...HE...or both of you will bring up the subject of EXCLUSIVITY. And this way, each of you will have a better idea about your feelings for one another.
or
B. YOU...HE...or both of you will become 'restless or bored with each other' because of the state-to-state commute? So worrying about whether your relationship is headed somewhere WON'T EVEN COME UP FOR DISCUSSION! You'll be...err..."history!"
Just take your time with this, okay?
Pianoguy