Should I slow down?
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| Fri, 07-07-2006 - 4:12pm |
Recently a friend of mine got married. While at the wedding I was told that one of the groomsman wanted to meet me. I didn't think much of it but when I went through the line of the wedding party to say hi to my friends, I took a second to talk to him. He wasnt really my style, but I still went through the line again to talk to him... and again. During the reception, we talked, we danced, we held hands, and at the end of the night he kissed me. He gave me his number and told me to call. I waited a couple of days and when I didnt call, he did. He asked me out, we spent sometime together, and things just clicked. The next week we saw eachother just about everyday. There were some issues because a couple of my friends liked him too, but that drama passed quickly.
He is perfect. He is smart, funny, attractive and so sweet. He can cook, he gives the most amazing professional massages, and he really likes me. He is everything I have ever wanted in a guy and I think I am falling for him. The only problem is, the wedding was only a week and a half ago. My parents tell me to be careful and take it slow since I'm going away to college in the fall. But something about him just seems to fit so well with me, so I have decided to give him a chance.
But all of the stress of the relationship and my life has started making me so tense around him. He has started worrying about me and I am afraid that I am going to hurt him or lose him. He has said that he wont give up on me, that he wants to help me. But I'm worried because I have had this problem in previous relationships and it has ended badly. I am really starting to care very deeply about this guy and I just dont want anyone to get hurt.
I'm not sure what to do. I have felt like I've known this guy for months but its only been about 2 weeks. I trust him and feel so comfortable with him, but my mind wont stop racing with the paranoia and worrying. What can I do to stop worrying so much? Should I take it slower because thats what my parents have told me or should I follow my heart? How do I explain my hesitation to him, though he knows I care about him so much? I am confused and I know that he is confused and frustrated as well. I really dont want to lose him or mess things up by moving too slow or too fast.
Help?

thatgirl54655...
Your story has to be one of the more interesting posts that Pianoguy has encountered. For a woman who started off 'not liking someone'---you did a 180-degree turnaround awfully FAST!
So let's look at your life two months before you met the man, okay?
Your original intention was to attend college in the Fall, correct? You also indicated that your previous relationships have ended badly.
Now you have a gentleman who is CONCERNED ABOUT YOU and HAS STATED THAT HE WON'T GIVE UP ON YOU!
With this type of assurance---go forward with your original "I'm attending college in the Fall" plan! You can STILL keep the very close friendship, because this man ISN'T putting you in a "stay with me or I'll leave you situation!"
If he's devoted to you as you indicated....HE'S IN THIS RELATIONSHIP FOR THE LONG HAUL!
Good Luck in school!
Pianoguy
I think that regardless of the situation, it's always good to take things slow. It will build a more secure foundation for your relationship. If things are meant to be, you have all the time in the world. Why hurry?
Since you are going to college in the fall, I am assuming that you are very young. Please remember to not give up and hopes or dreams because of any man. Have fun in college and learn as much as you can!
Good luck =)
Karina