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| Sun, 07-09-2006 - 10:10pm |
ok.......here goes.....
my boyfriend, guess I should say exboyfriend(god it hurts to say that, broke up with me four days ago. He said that he just doesn't know if he loves me like that and that if he asked me to marry him today he knows I would say yes and he doesn't think he would if I asked him. But he still wants to talk and hang out but for now we should just be friends. We dated for 7months and they were wonderful. Is there a chance that he is just scared and maybe testing me....I read somewhere when things start getting serouis sometimes one person in the relationship will start to pull away just to see if they are free to leave.
I know it's only been 4 days but I miss him.....I still have the keys to his house and he has my scuba gear so one way or another I will have to talk to him.....but should I wait and see if maybe he will miss me or should I just get it over with and get my stuff back and try to move on????????? Do I try to stay friends even if it is really over??????
I'm so confused and I love him and I miss him............HELP
my boyfriend, guess I should say exboyfriend(god it hurts to say that, broke up with me four days ago. He said that he just doesn't know if he loves me like that and that if he asked me to marry him today he knows I would say yes and he doesn't think he would if I asked him. But he still wants to talk and hang out but for now we should just be friends. We dated for 7months and they were wonderful. Is there a chance that he is just scared and maybe testing me....I read somewhere when things start getting serouis sometimes one person in the relationship will start to pull away just to see if they are free to leave.
I know it's only been 4 days but I miss him.....I still have the keys to his house and he has my scuba gear so one way or another I will have to talk to him.....but should I wait and see if maybe he will miss me or should I just get it over with and get my stuff back and try to move on????????? Do I try to stay friends even if it is really over??????
I'm so confused and I love him and I miss him............HELP
Signatures On
| Sun, 07-09-2006 - 10:24pm |
agggghhh. this is so hard, what to do. what do you want to do? do you want to be with him, and he knows this and still says "no", then you have your answer, move on. my friend sent me the link for The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran and in it there is a lot of explanation about love, the pain from love, but that without pain---> one would never know what love is. there would be nothing to compare it to, so love couldn't exist. that's how i interpreted it, but i am not always good at interpretation. this same friend also told me that he doesn't do anything that doesn't make him feel good. for example, if people in his life are causing him pain, strife, confusion or hurt he distances himself from them and focuses on only feeling good. he says that when you are aligned with what feels good in your life, your aligned with something divine, because something divine is a place of love, peacefulness and happines. anyway, my point is--->> for me, if i really want to move on, i need to do it right away. if i've put myself out there, said how i feel and i'm getting resistance, then i take it as a sign to walk away and move on (as painful as it truly is to do) and if he comes back and your heart is still aching to be with him then it was meant to be (for now) and you can get back together. if he comes back and you've moved on, well then you're really lucky that you moved on and he will just have to miss you like you missed him....and then it's karmic, or quantum physics...or something...or nothing...i don't know, i'm just telling you what i would do, but i don't know what he's going to do. i'm 26 and i've seen someone call after 1 day, 7 days, 1 month and i think that's the longest. then again i've been broken up with some of my exes and years later after i've clearly moved on they inquire on getting back together, but by then i just say "no way" and thank my lucky stars i moved on when i did. much luck to you, and i truly do hope that your will and your recent ex boyfriend's will is in alignment with the universe and it works out :>) i really do, i'm getting so sick of seeing girls so sad about boys these days, i just want to believe there is someone in the sky who really is going to make it all better....and soon. *hugs*
