Laying it on the table....
Find a Conversation
| Tue, 07-11-2006 - 12:04pm |
Ok...major breakthrough here with the "Is He or Isn't He" situation! Still need some help on the next step though...
Through a friend I have learned that the guy in question may think that I am not interested in him as anything other than a friend. I am a shy person who is naturally reserved and cautious in new and unusual situations and feel that due to this I may have made this guy feel rejected becuase I didn't accept all of his advances. It was not becuase I didn't WANT what he was offering it was simply becuase I was afraid of where things might go sexually due to the fact that both of us were drunk and I am VERY physically attracted to him. I did not think about how he might have perceived these actions of mine becuase I was so caught up in my own thoughts and fears so I did not communicate to him my reasons behind my actions.
What I would like opinions on is whether or not, after two and a half weeks, I should just call this guy and clear up the possible misunderstanding. I would like to just be open and honest with him about my feelings, but don't want to freak him out. I have always been a very subtle person who has a hard time revealing and expressing her feelings, but feel that in this case it is exactly what I need to do. How do men feel about having a woman just lay it all on the table and just TELL HIM how she feels about the situation...for me that would mean to tell him that I enjoy his company, have a favorable impression with him as a person and am attracted to him and if possible would like the chance to spend some time with him and get to know him better and see where things might go? I know that this guy goes out on dates with women on a fairly regular basis though it has been a while since he has been in any sort of steady and exclusive relationship and I don't want to loose my spot in the game.
Opinions please!

I wouldn’t lay it all on the table because it doesn’t seem necessary. You would be making the first move in my opinion. I would begin flirting when around and mentioning to him he is the type I’d date. That would be it though.
Marie
Verse of the Day
“ Each of us should please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. ”- Romans 15:2
Marie
Marie
Verse of the Day
“ Each of us should please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. ”- Romans 15:2
Marie