Did i ruined my chance with him?
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Did i ruined my chance with him?
| Mon, 07-17-2006 - 12:49pm |
Back in February I meet this guy and I been having a crush on him ever sense. See he is friends with one of my closest friends and he got invited to my birthday party. That night he asked me for my number and flirted the whole night…but nothing ever came out of it… so since he is really close to my friend we actually got to see each other a couple of times more and once again there was chemistry between us….well this Friday I saw him again. We saw each other at a club and we danced together the whole night long none stop and well we got pretty hot and heavy in the dance floor and I never thought that I could get turned on by someone just dancing with me but well it happened this time….so needless to say we slept together that night… and it was incredible…..now the problem is that I am not used to doing that…the only people I have slept with are with people that actually mean something to me like boyfriends….and so in the morning I practically ran out of his house…he didn’t want me to leave but I just freaked out and did….basically I just told him that I was leaving and rushed out. The thing is that I am worried that by sleeping with him so soon I have ruined my chances with him…that he will think that I am too easy…which I was that night…..and well he hasn’t called…and I don’t know if he hasn’t called because it was just a one night stand for him or if it was because he got the impression from him me that I didn’t like him or something since I rushed out in the morning….i don’t know what to think….and I don’t know what to do….i don’t want to call him cause I don’t want him to think that I am desperate so I wasn’t thinking of an email. And just kind of explain my self….i need some advice…We will both be going to the same event in 2 weeks and I don’t it to be weird between us….cause I really like him….i know it stupid of me…..

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I think it's more likely that your behavior the morning after was more of an issue than the fact that you slept with him. So I would shoot him an email letting him know you had a great time and that you're sorry you left so abruptly. I wouldn't try to explain yourself in an email...just leave it at that (if you do see him again, you can explain yourself in person). If he's interested, he'll pick up on the fact that you ARE interested in him after all and he'll follow up.
Sheri
Thank you Sheri,
thats what i was thinking of doing. My friends think that my chances with him are gonne....that i should wait for him to contact me if he is intereste...but i know that with the way i left in the morning he migh have gotten the wrong impression...and besides with my previous meetings with him he was alsways shy...so i dont know...i could tell that he liked me though... i guess i have no choice but to wait....
Edited 7/26/2006 6:25 pm ET by bluemackerel
Edited 7/17/2006 3:52 pm ET by bluemackerel
Edited 7/26/2006 6:26 pm ET by bluemackerel
Ok, why do you think you have no choice but to wait? A quick email won't hurt...if he's interested he'll be happy to hear from you, and if he's not interested, well, then he's not interested!
Again, don't try to get into any explanation or anything like that...just a light, breezy email saying you had a great time.
Sheri
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