Why couldn't he just tell me
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Why couldn't he just tell me
| Fri, 07-21-2006 - 6:50pm |
I was seeing this guy for about 2 months. everything was going good at least that's what I thought.. He was such a gentalman very respectful we hung out all when ever we can we fooled around only thing is was that we were never made anything offical so we where just dateing. now he new i was a virgin an he respected that .......... he game me this line of Bullsh** saying how much he can't wait to get with me that he'll wait till i was ready . an thing was i was ready to give it up 2 him but he just stop calling me out of no where i haven't heard from him in almost a month no i didn't go psyco on him cuz i can't but why could he just tell me he that he wasn't intrested in me anymore i though we was friends he was the one who wanted to take things slow an now i'm confused he was the first guy that i ever felt comfotable enough 2 do thing with . what should i do i'm starting to foget about him but it still makes me wonder why didn't he just tell me

It sounds like your young so I'll share the secret of why guys just disappear sometimes.
It's because their wussies. It's because they don't want to deal with what will happen after they tell you they don't want to date you any more.
Try to get used to it, it will likely happen your entire dating life. Don't sweat it, it happens to ALL of us. It isn't anything personal. I know it FEELS very personal, but trust me it isn't. It's just a part of the dating process.
Don't analyze it or try to figure out what you did wrong. Trust me you didn't do anything "wrong", you were yourself and you should keep being yourself. It's a zillion times better to have a guy reject you for who you really are then have him like you for someone you pretend to be only to wind up hurt and kind of broken hearted later when he dumps you because you finally let him see the real you.
Sometimes two nice people get together and it just doesn't work out. Chances are, it'll happen a lot before you meet the right guy for you. That's okay. It happens to ALL of us a lot.
You just keep being true to yourself and don't worry about boys who disappear into thin air, they aren't worth the time or the energy, EVER.
It would have been a lot messier had he started acting fake afterward.
Just be glad you learned his true nature in time and do not worry: there are tons of great guys out there. Be glad you didn't waste your virginity on some tool! :)