Why couldn't he just tell me

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Registered: 07-21-2006
Why couldn't he just tell me
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Fri, 07-21-2006 - 6:50pm
I was seeing this guy for about 2 months. everything was going good at least that's what I thought.. He was such a gentalman very respectful we hung out all when ever we can we fooled around only thing is was that we were never made anything offical so we where just dateing. now he new i was a virgin an he respected that .......... he game me this line of Bullsh** saying how much he can't wait to get with me that he'll wait till i was ready . an thing was i was ready to give it up 2 him but he just stop calling me out of no where i haven't heard from him in almost a month no i didn't go psyco on him cuz i can't but why could he just tell me he that he wasn't intrested in me anymore i though we was friends he was the one who wanted to take things slow an now i'm confused he was the first guy that i ever felt comfotable enough 2 do thing with . what should i do i'm starting to foget about him but it still makes me wonder why didn't he just tell me
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Registered: 05-15-2006
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 3:56pm
Aren't you happy he showed his behind now, not after he takes your virginity? Losing your virginity is the most important thing. That's something you remember for the rest of your life. If you are lucky, you'll have have a good experience. It should be with a man that respects you, care about you and sherish you for trusting him with this precious gift. There's no rush. Sex is such a huge responsibility that many people take too lightly. You are not missing out on anything. When you find the right guy, not only he'll wait for you to be ready. It will be an amazing experience. Good Luck!!!
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Registered: 01-06-2004
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 8:58am

It sounds like your young so I'll share the secret of why guys just disappear sometimes.

It's because their wussies. It's because they don't want to deal with what will happen after they tell you they don't want to date you any more.

Try to get used to it, it will likely happen your entire dating life. Don't sweat it, it happens to ALL of us. It isn't anything personal. I know it FEELS very personal, but trust me it isn't. It's just a part of the dating process.

Don't analyze it or try to figure out what you did wrong. Trust me you didn't do anything "wrong", you were yourself and you should keep being yourself. It's a zillion times better to have a guy reject you for who you really are then have him like you for someone you pretend to be only to wind up hurt and kind of broken hearted later when he dumps you because you finally let him see the real you.

Sometimes two nice people get together and it just doesn't work out. Chances are, it'll happen a lot before you meet the right guy for you. That's okay. It happens to ALL of us a lot.

You just keep being true to yourself and don't worry about boys who disappear into thin air, they aren't worth the time or the energy, EVER.

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Registered: 09-19-2006
Tue, 09-19-2006 - 2:01pm
Hey girl. COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS that you found out he was a jerk BEFORE you slept with him.
It would have been a lot messier had he started acting fake afterward.
Just be glad you learned his true nature in time and do not worry: there are tons of great guys out there. Be glad you didn't waste your virginity on some tool! :)
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Registered: 09-08-2006
Tue, 09-26-2006 - 11:27am
you are SO lucky that he left before you gave it up to a complete jerk. trust me i did and sometimes i regret it. i believed his BS and i still feel like an idiot. count your blessings doll.