is my relationship really ending

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2006
is my relationship really ending
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Tue, 07-25-2006 - 12:26am
I'm four months pregnant at 17. I think my boyfriend is cheating on me. About a month ago there was a girl come to his house looking for him. I never though to ask what for though. He's been going out really late than before. He's never home when I call. And I think his friends may be pushing him up to do that. I really just need some advice. I asked him one time but he said no and that was over the phone. I really just wish he would tell me the truth. It's hard to believe him because of the things I heard about him in the past. I just need some help. I don't know what to do who to believe.HELP!
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Registered: 11-21-2003
Tue, 07-25-2006 - 10:02am
Sweetie, I'm sorry that at a young age you're already experiencing these type of issues. Since you're underage, I'd suggest that you talk to your mother/father and about this issue and have them contact his parents. Is he as young as you are? It's possible that he's feeling presured by the fact that "he's going to be a dad" and wants to continue his partying and hangins with his buddies. He may be looking for a girl as well. He made this child so he needs to be responsible as well. He needs to support you emotionally, as you're passing through a dificult time yourself. Are you planning on getting married or else? Even if you both go your separate ways, he must support his child. If he rejects the ideas then take him to court to get child support.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-25-2006 - 11:26am

mrs. bbj...

A few thoughts from Pianoguy:

1. You can't force this man to LOVE you, but given his track record...WOULD YOU HONESTLY WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH HIM? Even if he was a semi-decent Dad to his child?

2. Get whatever free legal advice you can when it comes to child support and issues related to your own piece of mind? Even if the sex between you was consensual, you STILL bear the burden of delivering and rearing your child.

3. Have you notified HIS PARENTS about what he did? You may (or may not) get their support, but if they're aware of the fact that there's a "baby on the way"---it's entirely possible they'll GIVE THEIR SON A LITTLE HELL? .

4. Forget about obtaining support or encouragement from HIS FRIENDS. They're not involved in the pregnancy. So skip around the "road blocks" and go directly to the original source!

Pianoguy