Is he stringing me along?
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| Tue, 07-25-2006 - 5:54pm |
Here's the situation:
I have known Bobby* for awhile now, he was my first kiss back in the 6th grade and recently I saw him at a party where we ended up kissing. We are both 20 years old. Since then he has called me everyday, usually more than twice a day either to see what I am doing or to wanting to hang out. For awhile I kept going to the movies with him and his friends, which became annoying, so one night I insisted just me and him go together.
It went pretty well until he started telling me about his two past serious relationships and how much he got hurt from them. From this he told me he can't have a relationship with me, but he really wants one and would regret it if we didn't. He kept going on about how much he likes me and that he even thinks he is falling in love with me! It was just weird, because if he likes me this much, then why no relationship. He told me because he doesn't want to hurt me and he doesn't want to get hurt so he needs at least a month to sort things out with himself. So I told him it would be better if we just remained friends and don't continue with anything physical.
Since then he still calls me all the time, we hung out a couple days ago, where he told me that I will soon be his significant other. That bugged me, I feel like I am being strung along. I don't want to wait for him. But I do like him a lot, so it is hard for me to just forget him all together. My plan of action is to tell him that we shouldn't hang out so much until he is ready to be more than friends, because I will just end getting hurt, and he said he doesn't want that.
What is your opinion on this? What would you do? Does it sound like he is just messing with me? I know he doesn't just want me for sex, because he is always respectful. Plus he knows I am a virgin.
Thanks!

bblue351351...
Pianoguy thinks your plans for Bobby ARE EXCELLENT!
Keep the casual friendship between you (if that's possible), but don't fall into the trap of agreeing to become his S.O.
You'll ultimately lose your virginity and end up like his 2 previous girlfriends:
"SEDUCED & ABANDONED!"
Pianoguy