Stressed

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Stressed
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Wed, 07-26-2006 - 10:06am

I recently got back together with my BF of now 4 years. And basically I've come to the point where I need to sit down with him and tell him how it's going to be or else I'm walking out on him. I don't need to be stressed out at work, upset because of the stuff he's doing behind my back. Honestly I don't know why I came back to the RL, but really only to have someone there and nothing more. I know I'm not going to marry him or anything like that, but maybe this guy is just for the time being. He hasn't show me any interest in going to the next step either.

I found out that he signed up for one of those dating sites out there, because one of his guy buddies said there where hot girls on there. I got the assumption that he wanted to go on there just to look. I found out he did this last night, and now I'm pissed...but he doesn't know that I have access to his e-mail account. He's also talking with this chick that he now calls, "his friend", because she has a bike. I've read all of the conversations back and forth but haven't read his txt or heard his conversations on the phone. I've had it. He's also too stupid to see when girls are hitting on him. I don't need to feel like this. He has given me a reason not to trust him, and for that I have a reason to be paranoid. He also is going on vacation with some guy buddies, and lord knows there will be girls there too, and he basically told me "you werent invited"! WTF?

Everything else in my life is good right now, but this...What should I say to him..should I lay down the law, or just walk off and be done with it. I'm to the point of moving on again, and I want to do it permenantly. I need a real man, but I also need to get the guts to walk away from 4 years of my life. As comfy as it is right now, I'm to the point where I want to throw it away. Any thoughts are appreciated.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: sweatpea79
Wed, 07-26-2006 - 12:23pm

sweatpea79...

Sorry my dear...but Pianoguy thinks you've already cut your own throat before you've had the chance to "lay down the law!"

What puzzles me is...after 4-years of on-again/off-again crap...WHY DID YOU BOTHER GETTING BACK TOGETHER WITH HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE? Weren't there "red flags" present during and after the earlier break-ups the 2 of you had?

Look...you're NOT his mother! And from the tone of your entire post...you're NOT his exclusive girlfriend EITHER!

So say "adios" once and for all! You go your way...and let him go his!

I was going to bring up the email "snooping" on your part, but there's no need. You're angry enough as it is!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 04-17-2000
In reply to: sweatpea79
Wed, 07-26-2006 - 12:56pm
I second what PG said. Just move on and let it go. Or you will continue to be stressed and feeling stuck. He is already doing what he wants so I don't think a talk is even needed just drop contact.

Marie


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