Is 7 months too soon?
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Is 7 months too soon?
| Mon, 07-31-2006 - 4:45pm |
I am a divorced woman with two young children. I have been dating this wonderful guy for about 7 months now. I think he is a perfect fit for both me and my children. He has never been married and has no children of his own, however he treats mine as though they are his. I am not looking to rush into something but I am concerned that my children are getting attached to a man who has not made a commitment to me or them. He often discusses a future with us..however at this point he has not commited. Is it unreasonable for me to be concerned about my children's feelings? Do I tell him of my concern? I do not want to pressure him.

It may not be what you want to hear, but I think you should talk to him. Don't do the whole 'marry me or get out' thing because it's obviously too soon. But your main concern should be your children. Just ask him if he's in it for real because you need to make sure your kids don't get hurt if he dumps you, I think he'll understand your concern...you are not asking him to buy you a ring, just to tell you if he sees it happening in the future.
Good luck!
Daphne