Not sure what to think!?!

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Registered: 03-30-2006
Not sure what to think!?!
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Tue, 08-01-2006 - 5:45pm

I've been with my boyfriend for a year (officially next week) and we were seeing each other casually for a couple months before we were more serious... We moved in together after 7 months when he bought a condo. I was a little nervous about it being so soon but it has been wonderful... We got a puppy a couple of months ago.. He'll be 32 this month and I'll be 25 in October. Anyway...


He forwarded an email to me that his friend sent about some furnature we were thinking about buying, and in the email it has some replies between them back and forth. Part of it was taken out, but in part my boyfriend says to him:


"Well I asked her parents on Friday... Went to house and asked mom, then dad came over later. Gooood to get it over with....."


.......I don't know what to think? I wish I hadn't read that because I can't stop wondering if it might mean he asked for some sort of... Um... blessing? We're going on a big camping/biking/kayak/rock climbing/hot springs trip for four nights on Thursday and then celebrating our "anniversary" next Thursday and maybe going away the weekend after that. I'm going crazy wondering. His mom called our house on Sunday and just chatted with me, never asked to talk to him, which doesn't happen often. I'd hate to get my hopes up but can't think of anything else this might mean, as I can't think of anything he'd need to ask my parents about without talking to me first. I'd say yes. Maybe I could bug my sister incase she's heard anything, but then, do I really want to know?


I'm going insane! Our friends got engaged a couple months ago

- Katie
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Wed, 08-02-2006 - 9:07am
Well, you're smart to try keep your hopes in check; but, I certainly can't blame you. I would say try to enjoy the anticipation and let it be a surpirse. That is assuming, your answer is going to be "Yes." and you arne't trying to head him off. Your post didn't soudn that way, but I figured I'd mentin it just to be sure.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 10:03am

Wow, that sounds really cool. I think from what you are writing that you may be right. As long as you are happy, and you feel like this guy is the one, then go for it. If you are having a great relationship, and everything is working out so far...it's good news for you. That's really cool that you have moved in together in a short period of time, and this guy is a little older than you, I'm assuming he's got his life in order, and knows what he wants in life.

For me I just got out of a LTR that was going no where, I knew that as much as I tried to hold on to him, he just wasn't ready to commit to me after 4 years. I decided that I needed to move on with my life, and not waste anymore time with him. Too many lies, there was no trust anymore, and he just didn't want to work on the RL...that really did it in for me. Frankly he is too immature and I have outgrown the relationship a long time ago. But I need time to heal and move on with my life, and find someone that I can truly be happy with.

I wish that all relationships could be how yours is going! I wouldn't even bother asking your sister, I would just let it be. Even he does ask you, just let it be a suprise, instead of getting any false hopes up...which could really hurt you in the long run. And hey if you got a puppy a few months ago...I'm pretty sure that whatever happens in the next few days will be good.

Good Luck!

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Registered: 03-30-2006
Wed, 08-02-2006 - 10:48am

Thanks for your replies. =) I definately don't want to get my hopes up incase there's nothing happening, but it's really hard not too! I would definately say yes, and while I haven't put any pressure on him about it deep down I've known he's the one for a while...

We went to our Puppy School Parent Orientation thing last night and he held my left ring finger! And just rubbed it for a while... He does that sometimes! What a weirdo! =) Hehe.

The past couple or days now he's been puttering around the house getting ready for our trip and keeps telling me how he just wants to get ready for it and wants us to have a great time. He's been a little awkward. I'm trying not to read too much into everything but its hard not too. I DO want it to be a surprise. =)

I was in a relationship for about two and a half years a few years ago... It was almost three years of no boyfriend, just casual dating, in between him and my man now. That last relationship was full of lies and immaturity. After we broke up and tried to be friends, the guy even threatened me. That was the end of that!! Good riddence. =)

Being with my guy now shows me what a GOOD relationship is like. I can't believe how lucky I've been.

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- Katie