Pianoguy has found that some women handle "spur of the moment dates" considerably better than others.
I agree with you that it's certainly more courteous when you have a little advance notice (like a day or two) about going out. But I've also noticed that many men (and sometimes women) are so enthusiastic about an 'on the spot idea' that they often become devastated when the person they suggest it to...TURNS THEM DOWN!
Here's a simple choice:
If you don't want to go out at the last minute...DON'T! You're entitled to say OKAY or NOT TODAY! Just keep in mind that some men...when rejected enough...will often turn to someone else who is more agreeable to 'let's live for the moment' dates.
I'm not suggesting that you have to agree to any 'on the spot' arrangement, but sometimes these can provide nice surprises and also be a great deal of fun!
What makes you think he is obligated to pursue you in accordance to your expectations and demands when you're not even dating? I have a hard time understanding why you are investing time to complain about him rather than seeking out other opportunities. He is allowed a choice, just as you are allowed to make choices for life.
Have you ever asked for what you wanted from him? If not, it is pretty hard for any man to meet your secret expectations.
hi kaylyn2004...
Pianoguy has found that some women handle "spur of the moment dates" considerably better than others.
I agree with you that it's certainly more courteous when you have a little advance notice (like a day or two) about going out. But I've also noticed that many men (and sometimes women) are so enthusiastic about an 'on the spot idea' that they often become devastated when the person they suggest it to...TURNS THEM DOWN!
Here's a simple choice:
If you don't want to go out at the last minute...DON'T! You're entitled to say OKAY or NOT TODAY! Just keep in mind that some men...when rejected enough...will often turn to someone else who is more agreeable to 'let's live for the moment' dates.
I'm not suggesting that you have to agree to any 'on the spot' arrangement, but sometimes these can provide nice surprises and also be a great deal of fun!
Pianoguy
What makes you think he is obligated to pursue you in accordance to your expectations and demands when you're not even dating? I have a hard time understanding why you are investing time to complain about him rather than seeking out other opportunities. He is allowed a choice, just as you are allowed to make choices for life.
Have you ever asked for what you wanted from him? If not, it is pretty hard for any man to meet your secret expectations.