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| Thu, 08-10-2006 - 8:52am |
My friend and I started "dating" about two months ago and I finally asked him where we stand in the relationship last night. he basically told me that we are not BFGF despite the fact that he is faithful to me because the only girl he has considered his GF was the only girl he has told he loved. This is acceptable because I also have only had one BF and he was the only man I ever loved, so I understand his point of view. It may sound juvenile that we've both only had one BF/GF each but we're both in our mid-twenties.
However, he also said that it is unlikely that we will last forever. While I was not looking for husband or anything, to hear that he seems to have already decided that it will never work and is with me anyway because it makes him happy right now makes me wonder. I feel like it would be wiser to get out of the situation now, before my emotions are deeply invested. My mind tells me it's in my best interest to leave before my heart gets broken but my heart tells me how much I care about him and want to remain with him.
Should I end it?

If it were me I’d end it because I know I am gun shy when it comes to being hurt. I flea at first sight things are going to head to me being hurt. Yea, it is hard when you care for someone but sometimes people are meant to only be a friend and not a romantic friend. If he is a friend then leave it that way now because if you get hurt in the long run just think of where that friendship will be.
Marie
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“ Each of us should please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. ”- Romans 15:2
Marie
I am similar to you in that I flee from the first chance at I might get hurt and it was an issue when we first got together because I didn't want to ruin our friendship. I value our friendship very much...unfortunately I don't think we can be friends after the "relationship" because that is just how I am and have been in the past.
I was told that one should never let what *might* happen in the future interfere with the happiness that exists in the present, which is what drove me to go ahead and turn a friend to a lover. Now I am wondering whether I should still apply that rule...my heart says stay but my mind says go.