Does he like me?
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| Sun, 08-13-2006 - 1:28am |
So here's my deal. Three weeks ago I started a new job in my field. I had gone on two great interviews with this consultant for this company. I felt sparks within five minutes of meeting him. He was hot, smart, funny and a charmer. But I was also interested in the job.
I was asked to a second interview and did well. He was very flirty with me, giving me winks and such.
A week later I was offered the job and took it. The consultant would be my trainer for three weeks before moving on to his next project.
What a rollercoaster! He and I work extremely well together, but we've managed to B.S. some of the time too. I've gotten really friendly with him, where we talk to each other many times a day mostly about work, but lately he's been calling me later at night or asking me to call him. And when we talk, we talk about work, but we also banter back and forth and he doesn't seem to mind the conversation.
We went out for beers one night too and had a great time.
Let me add to this he's been very touchy feely with me, he'll touch my arm or hand, or I'll enter his personal space and he won't back away. I've been in the car with him where he's shown my something and my arm is resting touching his, and he doesn't move. I've also noticed him mirroring my movements.
More to this story is, I've had a boyfriend for several years, but we're having problems. He noticed one day that I seemed upset, and all of a sudden I found myself telling him my boyfriend and I were fighting. He was really gentle about it and coaxed it out of me. Then he sensed my unease and we refocused on work stuff.
But later, when he called me, we talked for awhile, and I again told him some things, and he didn't mind talking to me. I spoke with him yesterday for almost an hour, about work and about personal stuff, and he told me he had much respect for me, etc. and I learned the training well. I asked if he'd like to go out for another drink before he leaves, and he said he'd take me up on it if he finished his work.
That was yesterday, and today I called him around the time we agreed on. I left a message and he called me back. He was bantering as usual and it was the usual fun conversation. But when I asked him about the drink, he all of a sudden got wierd. He politely said he he didn't think he could go because he had a lot of work left to do wrapping up and he wanted to make sure I had everything I needed before he left. I was like, OK, no problem, and he was just like OK that's it, then all of a sudden he said Let me call you back.
Well, he never called me back, but I ran into some work related issues where I needed to talk to him. I left him another message apologizing for bothering him but stating what I needed. No response.
What gives? Is he not into me? Is he a player? Is he just busy? Does he know I like him and wants to keep it professional? Does he like me at all?

I think he was just a friend, and everything you both did together seemed more of a professional friendship then anything else. With him sitting in on your interview and also training you I am sure for ethical reasons he would want to keep it professional also. Don’t worry about this one, currently you should be focusing what is going on with your current situation before pursuing anything else where.
Marie
Verse of the Day
“ Each of us should please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. ”- Romans 15:2
Marie
Thanks for your reply.
I think you're right. He and I are definitely friends. There are some sparks there, but neither one of us wants to cross that line. That said, I saw him off today. We had coffee at Starbucks and talked about the good times we had. When we left, he gave me a huge hug and told me to call him tomorrow after he gets to his next work project site. We're still going to have a business relationship since he and I are doing the same job in two different locations and will need to relay ideas off each other. But I won't see him in person for a long time (sigh).
I need to figure things out with my boyfriend. If anything, knowing this new guy has made me realize that I need to reassess the relationship. Maybe there's more out there for me--perhaps not this guy, at least not right now, but someone more along my likes and desires who understands me--something which my boyfriend just doesn't.
Karenina :)
Marie
Verse of the Day
“ Each of us should please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. ”- Romans 15:2
Marie
Very sage advice. I love poetry, who is that poem by? I'd love to read it.
:)
The author is unknown but here it is.
ARE YOU REASON,
A SEASON, OR A LIFETIME?
Marie