What do I do?

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Registered: 08-13-2006
What do I do?
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Sun, 08-13-2006 - 10:43pm
A guy I have been friends with for about 3-4 months now recently told me he had feelings for me. Problem is he is sort of seeing someone (they are not serious but she is someone I know) The other night he told me that he believed he met her so that she would lead him to me. He said that he wanted to be with me and that things would eventually work out so that we could be together. That was 4 days ago and we haven't spoken since. Do I call him or just wait? I care a great deal for him and don't want to lose him as a friend because I know we cannot be together right now. Help, what should I say???
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Registered: 04-17-2000
In reply to: daisy62906
Mon, 08-14-2006 - 10:32am
I would not call, he has something going with another girl and he needs to handle that. Once he has handled that situation then he will call you.

Marie


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Marie

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Registered: 08-13-2006
In reply to: daisy62906
Tue, 08-15-2006 - 12:30pm
Normally, I would agree...if this was just a guy I had just met. But I miss our friendship. Is it possible to go back to just being friends after everything that was said and done??
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Registered: 04-17-2000
In reply to: daisy62906
Tue, 08-15-2006 - 1:05pm
It is possible to be friends again but I doubt it would work without a break to get things settled. Talk to him about then and see what he thinks.

Marie


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Marie

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Registered: 01-18-2006
In reply to: daisy62906
Wed, 08-16-2006 - 1:41pm

Since it's been like a week since you have talked to that guy, I would call him. I don't know how often you to talk, whether it be a few days or weeks, but I would call him up and talk with him. If you are friends, and you talk to each other, then call him.

Another question you should ask yourself is do you see this guy friend as a possible BF? Do you have the same feelings, or not? Or do you just want to be friends, and once he's done with the RL he is in, then you two should talk. You should ask him if he want to pursue a RL with you...(if that's what you want)...or just to be friends for now. Being direct will give you an answer.

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Registered: 08-13-2006
In reply to: daisy62906
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 4:23pm
Thanks Sweetpea. We've talked since I posted this. We really don't know what to do. We want to be together but he doesn't know how to break it off with the girl he is dating now. I think he is afraid of the backlash. She is away so we've been together every day since Sunday. WHen she comes back we need to decide what to do. :(
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Registered: 01-18-2006
In reply to: daisy62906
Wed, 08-23-2006 - 10:21pm
Glad to hear back from ya. The one thing that you need to realize is that its his problem and choice to break up with her. It's not a "we" decision in this case. There's nothing you can do, other than to tell him that if he truely wants to be with you, he knows what he needs to do. Obviously if he's spendin everyday with you, he's definately got a thing for ya. Give him time to make his decision, and respect his space if he needs it. Good Luck!