hurt,,,, and in some need of advice....
Find a Conversation
| Mon, 08-21-2006 - 9:28am |
Yes, this is a long situation, but i dont wana write something that will take you to long to read. The sitiation i am in is so confusing and i dont know what to do....
Recently for some reason, my ex started talking to me.... well back in june, he broke up with me because i supposedly "cheated", and me about a few days later, found out I had been a victim of "date rape". At the time i had been very confused and hurt, but a few more days later ended up telling him. He still didn't want to be with me, so a few weeks later i quit my job (well i worked with him and a bunch of coworkers who new this situation) and not wanting to listen to them talk about it or whatever gossip happened, took some time and left and went into a rehab center... and the rest of the months lived my life... but only about a few days ago me and him started talking again, and he asked me to be with him. and even at this point in time, i still dont feel like he is being "respectful". Going out with his buddies every sunday and getting drunk is an ritual they do, EVERY SUNDAY, and he started being dumb last night. I am not sure, he really is treating me like a girlfreind, he doesnt call, actually he never really does... and i dont know what to do in this situation. i know i should leave.... but its hard to leave when you really care for someone....
please any advice is helpful, thanx.

This guy has to have his own life, but at the same time...if he's like 21 or 22 you need to understand that type of stuff comes with the age. Because of the fact that you were raped, and he thought that was cheating, that whole issue needs to come up as well. You both need to get past that issue in order to move forward. The fact of him being respectful and going out and drinking with his buddies, well I don't know where your going on that one. But he's gonna do whatever he wants at this point, so there's really not much you can say on that. And yeah, if he acts stupid or whatever, it's because he's immature. If the conversation hasn't gone past him talking about him wanting to be with you, then no your arent BF/GF. It also could be that he's just looking to have sex with you too, so keep that in mind.
If I were you, I would confront him, and say look if you wanna be with me then we need to talk. When you talk to him, talk to him in person, and ask him what he wants. Make sure you get direct answers, because if you don't then you need to face facts on move on.