Recently single guy falling for me?

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Registered: 12-15-2005
Recently single guy falling for me?
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Tue, 08-22-2006 - 8:50pm

I went to a conference all weekend long and from across a circle of about 100 people, I spotted this guy, and instantly I knew that I wanted to get to know him. I noticed him checking me out too. Sure enough, it turned out that we were in the same group for the conference. He instantly introduced himself to me and shook my hand. We talked ALL night, from about 6pm when we met to 2am. We literally didn't stop. Furthermore, we kept getting lost from everyone else because we were only paying attention to one another. It was amazing. The next day was no different. We spent the entire day flirting and talking and getting to know each other more. We were together on the group boat cruise and at the dance. We literally didn't interact with anyone else all weekend except one another (we casually talked to other people for a few minutes at a time, but spent all of our time talking to each other). We talked about past relationships for a few minutes. He had broken up with his girlfriend about a week or so earlier because he had just moved. He said that things just wouldn't have worked out because he was going away to University and she lived way too far away for the relationship to continue. We basically established the fact that we were single and looking. I can't get over how much we talked. Even when we happened to be on separate sides of the room, we would glance over at each other and just smile. On Sunday night when the conference ended and we said goodbye, he gave me a hug, and said he was glad to meet me, and with a huge smile on his face said that he would see me in again in 2 weeks when school started. He turned the corner as he left, and I could feel the hot tears stinging in my eyes. It's funny how I could tell that something great was going to happen with this guy by spotting him in a crowd. I could feel myself falling for him with every passing moment we spent together.

He has a website. Before, his "status" read "In a relationship". Now it reads "Single" (I guess because it really IS over and he doesn't want me to think he still has feelings for her, because he knows I read his website). School starts in 10 days, but he wants to see me before then and he lives about 1/2 hour away. We've made arrangements for me to come see him one day. He says he never gets tired of me. And he said, "I feel like we just 'clicked', if you know what I mean."

My question is - could he really be over his ex-gf that fast and falling for me? I have never fallen so hard for a guy in my life, and I can really tell that he feels the same way and that he wants something to happen between us just as badly as I do.

Thanks so much for your help. I really needed a man's perspective.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 4:09pm

hopesandfears510...

You asked for a man's point of view so here's PG's:

First...I hope you DIDN'T share all your personal information about each other WITH EACH OTHER during the weekend conference? Cuz if you did, your future dates together will probably be very boring?

Unfortunately, your 'chemistry' together could be very sincere OR a 'rebound romance?' I guess it depends upon the honesty of the man you're interested in?

You might as well "get together" (quoting that old 60s pop hit from THE YOUNGBLOODS) and see how he behaves? Hopefully, his intentions toward you are honorable...UNLESS you have a few other ideas lurking in the back of your head?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Fri, 08-25-2006 - 9:51am
I would have to say no, he can't be over an ex that fast. Unless he was already over her a long time ago and was still in the RL for whatever stupid reason. Keep in mind that a guy that is now single...and just fresh off of a RL..is either looking to hookup with a girl for the time being or is just looking to date. It takes time coming off of any RL to get over someone, it doesn't happen overnight no matter what happened in the RL. If you do start dating and notice that him and his ex keep talking, you know there's still feelings there. I would be careful going into this, but go into it with no expectations other than to have a good time.