Wanting Opinions

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Registered: 12-05-2005
Wanting Opinions
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Wed, 08-23-2006 - 10:32am

I'm 20 years old, and I've had this crush on a certain guy since I was about 16... I tried seeing if he was interested a few times last fall, but he would always be so quiet i just thought ok, so he's not interested and I kind of forgot about it...

Sometime this summer, my friend was hanging out at this house and he was there.. They sort of got to talking and she said he was asking about me and saying i seemed like a really nice girl, etc. Turns out he likes me and she told him I had a thing for him too.. So he told her that anytime we would want to do something, to just call him or go get him, etc. After that, I was trying to plan sometime like a double date with some friends or something so that we could end up hanging out and see if anything clicked.. Nothing ever came out of it for about 2months..

Last Thursday, my friend, some guy she's dating and me went to pick him up at his house and we all hung out that night, he ended up kissing me when i dropped him off and told me to go check out a party he'd be at the next night.. So Friday night, around 12 or so, i asked one of my friends who just came from that party if my guy was there and he said he wasn't.. we didn't bother showing up since he wasn't even there..

Then last night, one of my guy friend went over to his house and my guy said we should all hang out there that night.. So about an hour or two after that, we show up at his house and he's not there!!

Is he not interested in me? If not, then why ask us to go see him in the first place? It's not like I'm the one who suggested anything, he's the one inviting me everywhere.. but then if he is interested.. then why invite me and leave?

Sometimes he seems totally interested.. Like when we picked him up at his house, his cousin who he hadn't seen in like 9 months came down from far away and it was the first night he was even down.. He pretty much ditched him for me.. A few other times things like this happened too..

Is he not that into me? or what?

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Registered: 01-18-2006
In reply to: joarsena
Thu, 08-24-2006 - 1:01am
Doesn't seem like he's that interested in you. Maybe more like a friend, I'm not sure. If you have his number or get a chance to see him again, I'd be like, ok so what's your deal...I thought you had some interest in me? Ask him about the time he uped and left ya, and what happened. Really the only way you'll find out his deal is to just ask him directly, then you'll have your answer.